Struggles of Becoming a Parent

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Becoming a parent is a joyous time, but unfortunately new stresses come along with it. Things change. Two people who were used to taking care of themselves now have the responsibility of taking care of baby that can do nothing for itself. Tension can arise between the caretakers and those around them. Because of the new addition, the responsibilities shift or may change all together. Some common difficulties that arise are frequent arguments and conflicts on how to parent. One of the most difficult things is learning the balance between, the relationship, family, and the everyday stresses of work and household work.

It is important that both partners form a bond with the infant and that both partners agree and participate in the infant’s care. It is critical that both partners notice and acknowledge their appreciation for infant care and support. Both partners should get together and discuss a plan on how to manage the balance of responsibilities.

If you are struggling with the adjustment of having a little one to care for, a counselor may be able to guide you through the transition from being a couple to being parents. Visit for more information or call 813-244-1251 for any questions or to set up an appointment.

Spring is around the corner….

For many, spring is a time of new birth and new beginning. Many take this time to clean out and start fresh again. Why not do the same for your mind? Take a moment to take a deep breath and make a step toward a better you! If you want to understand yourself better consider counseling as a way to get a fresh start. We have many great therapists in our office that offer a variety of counseling services. Check out our website for more information or call 813-244-1251 for any questions or to set up an appointment today!

Happy Spring!

Valentine’s Day is around the corner…

Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching. Relationships are important so be sure to tell your loved ones how much you appreciate them. If you are having any difficulty communicating with your loved ones consider Star Point. At Star Point Counseling center we offer counseling services for individuals, couples, and families. We even offer premarital counseling services. Visit for more information about our services or to learn more about our many therapists.

Blue Monday

If you were not already aware, this past Monday is known as Blue Monday, noted to be the most depressing day of the year. Blue Monday is a relatively new theory proposed by a UK psychologist based on a mathematical formula (Blue Monday). This day is calculated to be the most depressing day of the year due to failed New Year’s resolutions, winter weather, and holiday bills. If you are feeling blue or need help getting back on your feet please visit or call 813-244-1251 to make an appointment

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Premarital Counseling

When you get engaged people usually start planning the big day. When planning your wedding do not forget to also plan for your marriage. Your wedding is for one day, your marriage is a much longer commitment. Seek premarital counseling in order to learn how to better communicate with your partner and how to cope with unexpected stressors.

Seeking therapy early can help prevent future communication and relationship difficulties. Visit to learn more or call 813-244-1251 to schedule an appointment.

It’s a New Year

Happy New Year from Star Point Counseling Center!

Star Point Counseling Center wishes you a very happy new year. The new year brings new starts and new stresses. If you at any time feel overwhelmed please feel free to visit or call 813-244-1251 to make an appointment.

New Year, New Resolutions

New Year’s resolutions are made year after year. Many people start the new year with a clear goal in mind and unfortunately after some time let the goal slip away. Life happens and sometimes it is difficult to stay on track with new year’s resolutions. Instead of making some far out goal, start with little goals, break your big goal into achievable steps. Instead of saying something general like, “This year I am going to be healthier,” make an actionable plan with steps that will help you to achieve your particular goal. Some ideas for this example are: start taking vitamins, exercising three times a week, and making meal plans every week.

Making goals is the easy part, putting them into action is a whole other story. If you need help in identifying or creating an actionable plan to complete your goals visit or call  813-244-1251 to make an appointment.

5 Simple Steps for Daily Happiness!

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In our 24/7 non-stop world of deadlines, hectic schedules, responsibility and stress, great days are hard to come by. But what if there was a way to change that?

Here are 5 simple steps you can do each day to help make it great with the goal of building happiness:

  1. Focus on gratitude early. Before even getting out of bed in the morning, clear your mind of the days “to do” list and spend 60 seconds focusing on what you are grateful for. By focusing on basic things you are grateful for you instantly help put yourself in a good mood.
  2. Choose happy foods. Part of having a great day is making healthy nutritional choices. One powerful approach is to choose your meals wisely and eat things that increase happiness. Foods such as apples, berries, and oranges have been found to have mood boosting powers.
  3. Do something physical.  Physical activity has been scientifically proven to have a positive impact on mood while also acting as a powerful tool to increase happiness. You don’t have to hit the gym hard, stretching, walking or going for a bike ride will be enough to release powerful brain chemicals that are known to power up your happiness.
  4. Schedule happiness. Yes, it is possible. Scheduling happiness for yourself can be as simple as taking a quiet walk around the block and focusing on gratitude or spending some time with your pet.
  5. Choose happiness. It sounds simple, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Choosing happiness means reaching deep inside and believing you are worthy of happiness. It means identifying your triggers for stress in advance and choosing how you will respond. Choosing happiness means loving yourself for the person you are and turning off negative self-talk.

Having daily happiness is ultimately up to you! Sure there are days where things come up and derail you from time to time, but with the right mental and emotional attitude, coupled with some tweaking on your part, great days can become part of your reality. Before you know it, you will be well on your way to a great week!

The Impacts of Loneliness.


Despite how common loneliness is, few people are fully aware of the dramatic ways in which it impacts us. Here are ten surprising facts about loneliness that will change how you view it:

  • Loneliness does not depend of how many friends you have. Loneliness depends on the quality of the relationships and whether you feel emotionally and/or socially connected from those around you.
  • Loneliness is contagious in social networks. Loneliness has a clear stigma. We tend to be able to spot and identify the lonely people around us.
  • Loneliness actually makes us feel colder. Studies found that recalling a time in which we felt lonely made participants estimate the room temperature as being significant colder, it even made their actual skin temperature drop.
  • Loneliness makes our bodies feel like under attack. Loneliness causes an immediate and severe bodily reaction. It increases in blood pressure and cholesterol, and it activates our physical and psychological stress responses.
  • Loneliness suppresses the functioning of our immune system. Loneliness causes our immune systems to function less efficiently, which over time, puts us at increased risk for developing all kinds of illnesses and diseases.
  • Loneliness is as dangerous as cigarette smoking. Scientists have concluded that given all the drastic ways in which loneliness impacts our bodies, it represent as great a risk for our long term health and longevity as smoking cigarettes.

Clearly loneliness represents a hugely important psychological harm and not one we should ignore. Make sure to take steps when you are lonely, and educate others around you about how detrimental loneliness can be.

Solving Communication Problems with Your Tween.


Maintaining a good relationship with your child is important for getting them to do things that they prefer not to do and being able to influence them. Even tweens with an overly developed conscience are still at the stage where they do the right thing to avoid displeasing their parents, teachers, and other authority figures because they can readily tell the difference between right and wrong.

A big problem for parents is getting tweens to listen when they are being spoken to. In fact, many parents are so used to being ignored, they automatically raise their voices when asking their tween to do something, as if speaking to someone who is slightly deaf. Most tweens dislike being shouted to and ordered about. It makes them resentful, and as they mature, they begin speaking in the same disrespectful ways to their parents.

For many parents, the biggest challenges are remembering to treat their child respectfully on the one hand, and demanding that their child treat them respectfully on the other. Modeling is the most potent form of teaching.If you yell and scream out of frustration, apologize later, just as you would expect someone else to do if they lost their temper with your child, and just as you would expect your child to do if they took out their crankiness on you or their teachers. Down the road, they will need to be able to handle them self appropriately with bosses and employers.

For more tips and tools on solving communication problems with your tweens, call us today! We teach and demonstrate effective parenting skills and techniques that will help you to break through the communication barriers that may be undermining your authority in the home.    (813)244-1251