Tips for social anxiety

Many people endure shyness, panic and anxiety even to the thought of having to meet or mingle with others. They will experience dry mouth, pounding heart, shaky voice, rapid breathing, sweating, blushing and an upset stomach. Because of this, they tend to avoid people all together. Here are some tips to help you if you are experiencing these symptoms:

  • Relax prepare yourself for whats to come and begin to think about the situation while in a relaxed state.
  • Seek out social situations actively put yourself in social situations so they will become “normal” and  not something that builds up dear anymore.
  • Ask questions social phobia has us worrying about what other people think about us. Cultivate curiosity and ask people open questions and interact with them.
  • Be yourself don’t be scared to “make a fool’ our of yourself or worry about being “perfect.” Just relax and be yourself!

At Star Point Counseling Center, we have licensed counseling therapists available to help you social anxiety. So, if you are having a problem interacting with people or going to new places and want to talk about it and learn ways to cope with your anxiety, please visit our or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

Marriage Counseling

It takes work and effort to have a healthy marriage. Here are some tips you can use to strengthen your relationship:

  • Spend time with each other! Plan date nights and weekend getaways, by spending time together you will better understand your partner and grow strong together.
  • Learn to negotiate and communicate. Conflict is a normal part of any relationship, although there are boundaries and ways to discuss a problem. Learn to express your thoughts and not assume the other person knows how you feel. Also, don’t forget to let the other person talk.
  • Show respect for each other at all times. Never put down the other person or criticize them.
  • Explore common interests and try new things together.
  • Explore intimacy. Marital intimacy, whether sexual or emotional, can open your relationship to a whole new level of enjoyment and closeness.

At Star Point Counseling Center, we have licensed counseling therapists available to help you with your marriage. So, if you are having a problem with your marriage and need to talk about it, or want to learn ways to build relationships, please visit our website or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

Tips for Co-Parenting

The key to co-parenting is to focus on your child and your child only. This can be very difficult at times. It means that your own emotions, anger, or resentment is set aside. Co-parenting is about your child’s happiness, stability and future well being. It is ok to be hurt and angry but your feelings don’t have to dictate your behavior. Here are some tips for communicating with an ex:

  • Make sure never to vent to your child and to get your feelings out somewhere else, for example a close friend or therapist.
  • Never use your kid as the messenger, this will put him or her in the center of the conflict.
  • Use a business-like tone with your ex and set the boundaries. Be cordial, respectful, and use a neutral tone.
  • Be sure to listen. Even if you do not agree, communicating with maturity starts with listening. Listening foes not signify approval but is necessary to understand the other person’s point of view.
  • Lastly, keep the conversations kid-focused and about your child’s needs.

At Star Point Counseling Center, we understand the challenges that come with a divorce and want to help you make adjustments to the changes that occur when families are split up. If you are having trouble with your ex or need communication or patenting techniques please visit our website or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

Have you endured a traumatic event?

When a stressful event happens in our life or we are under threat our sympathetic nervous system is activated. This causes our eyes to dilate, our attention to focus, our heart rate to increase, our breathing to become faster and our muscles to tense up. This is all to help you react quickly in order to insure better safety. This is a normal reaction, and it is customary to be shaken by a traumatic event or at the site of danger.

However, if these symptoms last for an extended period of time after the incident, you may want to seek help. If your stress reaction lasts for months on end and is accompanied by a number of other symptoms like reoccurring memories or distress and anxiousness about the event, that are significantly interfering with you life, you should seek professional help.

At Star Point Counseling Center, we have licensed counseling therapists available to help reduce your stress, relieve your pain, and make you feel better. We are here to help you find out how to maximize your productivity and build coping skills. So, if you have experienced a traumatic event and need to talk about it, or want to learn ways to cope with your distress, please visit our website or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

Feeling Anxious?

Sleepless nights of restlessly turning over in bed for hours on end, worrying about what tomorrow’s day has to come…

If this sounds like something you are currently going through you might have a problem. Many people undergo excessive worrying and fear that interferes in their daily life, in most cases causing tiredness, shakiness, dizziness, nausea and shortness of breath. Do you find yourself feeling constantly on edge that you can’t fall asleep at night or even have a hard time concentrating at work? If you are experiencing any of those symptoms here are some tips that may help you with your anxiety:

  • Take time out of your day to relax. Listen to music, do yoga, or get a massage, and practice relaxation techniques that help you clear your head.
  • Eat a well balanced diet. Do not skip meals and maintain a healthy diet.
  • Exercise. Daily exercise will help you stay fit and relieve stress.
  • Take deep breaths. When you feel anxious inhale and exhale slowly, maybe while counting to 10 slowly.
  • Learn what triggers your anxiety. Is it work, family, school, or something else you can identify that makes you anxious? Write down when you are feeling stressed and look for a pattern.
  • Talk to someone!!! Talk to supportive friends or family and let them know how they can help you. Also don’t hesitate to talk to a physician or therapist for professional help.

Not all anxiety can be easily managed even with the right tools to do so. Sometimes, you need to reach out for help from someone who can help you take control of your life and enhance your ability to cope with life’s anxieties. As always, at Star Point Counseling we are here for you. So, if you are experiencing difficulty in areas of life please visit our website or give us a call at (813)-244-1251. We Care!

Tips for children who are transferring schools!

Is your child having a hard time transitioning between schools? Sometime it is difficult for a child who has transferred schools multiple times to easily transition and become comfortable in a new setting. If your child is verbalizing fear of attending school or exhibiting high levels of anxiety over separating from you during the day here are some helpful tips to improve their school experience:

  1. Schedule extra time to prepare him or her for the transition from home to school.
  2. Let them know you believe in them and have full confidence in their abilities!
  3. Establish a morning routine to help them prepare for the day
  4. Allow him or her to participate in extracurricular activities after school
  5. Encourage and reinforce them for their attempts to do well in school

However, not all anxiety can be easily managed even with the right tools to do it individually. Sometimes, you need to reach out for help from someone who can help you and your child feel comfortable. As always, at Star Point Counseling we are here for you. So, if you are experiencing difficulty with your child please visit our website or give us a call at (813)-244-1251

Pre Marriage Concerns

A few things a couple should consider before getting married.

  1. Shared goals
  2. Individual goals, are they the same?
  3. Income and expense expectations
  4. do you both want children and when in life do you want them
  5. Mutual recreational activities

Star Point Counseling Center offers a 5 session Pre Marriage workshop. Please call 813-244-1251 for more details.


Are you experiencing frequent arguments and misinterpretations with someone in your family? Good communication skills are an extremely important aspect of a healthy relationship with family members. If you are experiencing difficulty communicating in your relationships, here are some helpful hints to improve things:

  1. Attempt to admit to and assume responsibility for poor communication and related tensions by asking each other defining and identifying questions to clarify the communication problems.
  2. Identify any underlying dynamics that may be hindering communication like hidden resentment or avoidant behavior.
  3. Think about the benefits of developing a more cohesive, open, close relationship with your family. This may take time and feel different or unusual at first.
  4. Schedule weekly or monthly family meetings to constructively discuss issues in the family.
  5. Plan family outings or activities in order to strengthen family interaction.

If you are experiencing difficulty communicating in your relationships, feel free to call (813) 244-1251 to talk to someone at Star Point Counseling who can help. Also, visit our website for more information on how we can help you learn tips and techniques for positive communication! www.starpointcounselingtampa.comcommunication

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