Positive Thinking

Research is beginning to reveal that positive thinking is about much more than just being happy or displaying an upbeat attitude. Positive thoughts can actually create real value in your life and help you build skills that last much longer than a smile.

A positive person anticipates happiness, health and success, and believes he or she can overcome any obstacle and difficulty.

Positive thinking is not accepted by everyone. Some, consider it as nonsense, and scoff at people who follow it, but there is a growing number of people, who accept positive thinking as a fact, and believe in its effectiveness.

It seems that this subject is gaining popularity, as evidenced by the many books, lectures and courses about it.

To use it in your life, you need more than just to be aware of its existence. You need to adopt the attitude of positive thinking in everything you do.

If you feel you would benefit from positive thinking then call Star Point Counseling Center at 813-244-1251 to schedule an appointment to see one of our therapists.

 

Alcohol Controls My Life

What alcohol has to say…

 I’ll invade all your thoughts, I’ll take hostage your soul

I’ll become your new master, in total control

I’ll maim your emotions, I’ll run the whole game

Till your entire existence is crippled with shame.

When you call me I come, sometimes in disguise

Quite often I’ll take you by total surprise.

But take you I will, and just as you’ve feared

Ill want only to hurt you, with no mercy spared.

I bring self destruction, but still you can’t tell

I’ll sweep you through heaven, then drop you in hell,

I’ll chase you forever wherever you go,

And then when I catch you, you won’t even know.

Losing yourself in a relationship

Sometimes, you can try so hard to please someone that you forgot who you were because they came into your life. Being in love isn’t about catering to one person’s needs and it isn’t about following someone else’s path. It’s about doing what is best for both of you, because ultimately, you are one. There are times when opportunities will arise for your partner, so you sacrifice to ensure the greater future for your mutual lives. However, you must know that your partner would one day do the same for you. You should not give up your dreams to be able to remain together. Because the right person won’t hold you back and will sacrifice for you when a solid opportunity comes your way.

An important aspect in not losing yourself in a relationship is making sure that you have time for yourself. You shouldn’t be solely focused on making your significant other happy that you  give up the things that make you who you are or make you happy. You should maintain your hobbies and make time for your own happiness, because being in a relationship doesn’t mean changing who you are.

At Star Point Counseling Center, we have licensed counseling therapists available to help you if you are having trouble in your relationship. Please visit our website starpointcounselingtampa.com or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

Mental Health Care for Veterans

The American Government should be ashamed of the mental health care we give our Veterans. The people who fight for our freedom and protect us have to go to the VA for mental health treatment. A lot of Veterans come back home with P.T.S.D and/or severe trauma. The VA is arguably the worst health care in America, we all read about and hear the horror stories the Veterans go through trying to get into the VA to see a mental health provider. I personally have taken calls from Veterans trying to get mental health treatment telling me the VA said they have a 3 month waiting list to see a mental health provider. They sometimes are willing to pay for treatment out of their own pocket. That is how much they want help from a mental health provider.

Meanwhile, Federal Employee’s enjoy Blue Cross & Blue Shield with a $20 co pay as their insurance carrier. With BCBS Federal Employee’s can see a mental health provider within a few days. There are a lot of excellent mental health providers who are in network with BCBS.  My question to the American Government is, why can’t our Veterans also have Blue Cross & Blue Shield insurance as well so they can get the help they need?

Our active duty Military Personnel have Tri Care insurance, which is a Government funded insurance company managed very much like the VA. Why can’t our active duty Military Personnel have Blue Cross & Blue Shield insurance as well?

This is not a political bash on the Democratic Party or Republican Party, just simply a question to our government. This practice of the American Government giving arguably the worse insurance and care in America to our Veterans and Active Duty Military Personnel has been going on for decades.

 

Troubled Teens

Parenting a teen is never easy, especially if they are taking part in reckless behaviors like abusing alcohol, using drugs, or is violent and depressed.  While parenting a troubled teen can often seem like an impossible task, there are steps you can take to ease the chaos at home and help your teen become a successful adult.

As they grow older, teens begin to assert their independence, because of this, they may experience behavioral changes that can seem bizarre to the parents.  Therefor, it is important for parents to understand which behaviors are normal during adolescent development and which are indicators of a more serious problem.

  • Changing in appearance is typical teen behavior, although if it is accompanied by problems at school or self-harm it is a problem.
  • Mood swings are normal due to hormone changes, although sudden persistent sadness, anxiety, or sleep problems can be a sign of depression.
  • Increased arguments is typical teen behavior as they begin to seek independence, although violence at home, getting in fights at school, and run-ins with the law are all red flags.

If you see a red flag behavior in you teen you should consult a doctor, counselor or therapist. At Star Point Counseling Center, we specialize in helping troubled teens get back on the right track. We can help your teen through the stages of change, to increase compliance with rules and laws, encourage positive peer selection, improve academic status, and overall goal directed behavior. If you have any questions or wish to speak to a counselor please give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

Family Stress

Family dynamics significantly impact one’s health in both positive and negative ways. Having a close-knit and supportive family provides emotional support, economic well-being, and increases overall health. Although, the opposite is also true. One’s health tends to be negatively affected by family stress and conflict. Families characterized by conflict, anger, and aggression have a particularly negative effect on the children in the home.

At Start Point Counseling Center, we can help you identify specific family dynamics that compromise the quality of home life for you and your children. We encourage strong, loving, high functioning, and spiritually grounded family lifestyles.

Without pointing the finger of blame, shame or chastisement, we work to identify the factors that may contribute to a breakdown in communication in the home. So, if you are experiencing tension and stress from your family dynamic please visit our website starpointcounselingtampa.com or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

Enjoy the little things…Holiday stress!

Sometimes it is difficult to remember to sit back and enjoy the holidays with the people you love. We spend so much time shopping, wrapping presents, returning presents, and attending holiday parties, all while already attending to our already busy schedule.

Here are some times to help you enjoy the holidays:

  • Try to find peace and joy in the season and focus on the moment you are in and not about the future.
  • Plan ahead, sometimes starting early with the decorations will help set your mind to ease. It’s never fun procrastinating setting up the Christmas tree and spending weeks worrying about it.
  • Try to keep the same routine for your kids, because they feel more secure when their days follow a predictable order. This helps keep your household peaceful and running well.
  • Remember what the holidays are about. Try not to get caught up so much with the physical aspects of the holidays, but instead remember its about spending time with the people you love. Try to shop less and focus on family time and de-stressing. Don’t forget to laugh! Laughter is the best medicine!:)

Grieving the loss of a loved one

Grieving is something that everyone endures at one point in their life. It is an individual experience that depends on someone’s personality, coping style, life experiences, and faith. The grieving process takes time and cannot be forces or hastened.

Here are some misconceptions are grieving:

  • The pain will go away faster if you ignore it.

Trying to ignore your pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long run. For real healing it is necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it. This may be in the form of therapy and talking it out.

  • It’s important to be “be strong” in the face of loss.

Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. When grieving, it is important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to naturally unfold without holding yourself back, from fear or being “weak.”

  • Grief should last about a year only

There is no right or wrong time frame for grieving. How long it takes can differ from person to person. Some people start to feel better in weeks, while it takes others years to cope with their loss.

At Star Point Counseling Center, we have licensed counseling therapists available to help you get through the loss of a loved one. So, if you are having a problem coping with a loss and want to talk about it and learn ways to move forward please visit our website at  starpointcounselingtampa.com  or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

 

Tips for social anxiety

Many people endure shyness, panic and anxiety even to the thought of having to meet or mingle with others. They will experience dry mouth, pounding heart, shaky voice, rapid breathing, sweating, blushing and an upset stomach. Because of this, they tend to avoid people all together. Here are some tips to help you if you are experiencing these symptoms:

  • Relax prepare yourself for whats to come and begin to think about the situation while in a relaxed state.
  • Seek out social situations actively put yourself in social situations so they will become “normal” and  not something that builds up dear anymore.
  • Ask questions social phobia has us worrying about what other people think about us. Cultivate curiosity and ask people open questions and interact with them.
  • Be yourself don’t be scared to “make a fool’ our of yourself or worry about being “perfect.” Just relax and be yourself!

At Star Point Counseling Center, we have licensed counseling therapists available to help you social anxiety. So, if you are having a problem interacting with people or going to new places and want to talk about it and learn ways to cope with your anxiety, please visit our websitestarpointcounselingtampa.com or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.