Therapy in Action With Troubled Kids

Clarissa Crystal-Belle, LMHC has published her first book. Therapy in Action With Troubled Kids is now available in paperback in all of the bookstores and online for less than $15. This is a must read for anyone who works with children in schools, daycare, Department of Children and Families, Children Police Investigations, Foster Homes, Divorce and Custody Attorney’s and Parents. The book is not your ordinary self help book on how to raise children, it is very intuitive and insightful.

Clarissa Crystal-Belle, LMHC is Co Founder and Executive Clinical Director at Star Point Counseling Center. Clarissa has extensive experience working with children in corrections, DCF and with the court system. The book is based on her experiences working as a Therapist.

Please visit out web site starpointcounselingtampa.com to view Clarissa’s Bio.

Don’t let your past anchor you down

We all dwell on the past from time to time. As we live life it’s only natural that we sometimes cling onto what once was. But when our clinging to the past affects our future, it comes unhealthy and an anchors that can hold us down.

When you begin to dwell on the past more than you feel is healthy, ask yourself a series of open-ended questions: Why does this memory matter to me? Does it serve me to restrict certain opportunities because they remind me of this memory? Think yourself through it.

Also, stop rehashing the problem, if you stop telling your story, you’ll realize more and more each day that you’re the one in control and you have the power to un-anchor yourself.

As for all your memories like letters, notes, and clothing items, many people find it hard to completely get rid of these things. One way to make sure you don’t keep looking through them is gathering them in a box and hiding it until you’re ready to revisit it again with a different mindset.

Sometimes it helps to get everything out. One tip is to write down everything you’ve ever wanted to say to that person. Once you are done, dispose of your letter. Bury it, shred it, or even burn it.

Take this as an opportunity to discover who is in your life now and who is truly there for you. Also try your hardest to forget about who was once there for you.

Lastly, keep yourself busy with physical activity and just live as much as you can.Every day, you have the opportunity to make new memories happen. This is a gift we often take for granted.

Remember, anchors don’t have to hold you  down. It’s your choice to choose to let go!

Positive Thinking

Research is beginning to reveal that positive thinking is about much more than just being happy or displaying an upbeat attitude. Positive thoughts can actually create real value in your life and help you build skills that last much longer than a smile.

A positive person anticipates happiness, health and success, and believes he or she can overcome any obstacle and difficulty.

Positive thinking is not accepted by everyone. Some, consider it as nonsense, and scoff at people who follow it, but there is a growing number of people, who accept positive thinking as a fact, and believe in its effectiveness.

It seems that this subject is gaining popularity, as evidenced by the many books, lectures and courses about it.

To use it in your life, you need more than just to be aware of its existence. You need to adopt the attitude of positive thinking in everything you do.

If you feel you would benefit from positive thinking then call Star Point Counseling Center at 813-244-1251 to schedule an appointment to see one of our therapists.

 

Alcohol Controls My Life

What alcohol has to say…

 I’ll invade all your thoughts, I’ll take hostage your soul

I’ll become your new master, in total control

I’ll maim your emotions, I’ll run the whole game

Till your entire existence is crippled with shame.

When you call me I come, sometimes in disguise

Quite often I’ll take you by total surprise.

But take you I will, and just as you’ve feared

Ill want only to hurt you, with no mercy spared.

I bring self destruction, but still you can’t tell

I’ll sweep you through heaven, then drop you in hell,

I’ll chase you forever wherever you go,

And then when I catch you, you won’t even know.

Losing yourself in a relationship

Sometimes, you can try so hard to please someone that you forgot who you were because they came into your life. Being in love isn’t about catering to one person’s needs and it isn’t about following someone else’s path. It’s about doing what is best for both of you, because ultimately, you are one. There are times when opportunities will arise for your partner, so you sacrifice to ensure the greater future for your mutual lives. However, you must know that your partner would one day do the same for you. You should not give up your dreams to be able to remain together. Because the right person won’t hold you back and will sacrifice for you when a solid opportunity comes your way.

An important aspect in not losing yourself in a relationship is making sure that you have time for yourself. You shouldn’t be solely focused on making your significant other happy that you  give up the things that make you who you are or make you happy. You should maintain your hobbies and make time for your own happiness, because being in a relationship doesn’t mean changing who you are.

At Star Point Counseling Center, we have licensed counseling therapists available to help you if you are having trouble in your relationship. Please visit our website starpointcounselingtampa.com or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

Mental Health Care for Veterans

The American Government should be ashamed of the mental health care we give our Veterans. The people who fight for our freedom and protect us have to go to the VA for mental health treatment. A lot of Veterans come back home with P.T.S.D and/or severe trauma. The VA is arguably the worst health care in America, we all read about and hear the horror stories the Veterans go through trying to get into the VA to see a mental health provider. I personally have taken calls from Veterans trying to get mental health treatment telling me the VA said they have a 3 month waiting list to see a mental health provider. They sometimes are willing to pay for treatment out of their own pocket. That is how much they want help from a mental health provider.

Meanwhile, Federal Employee’s enjoy Blue Cross & Blue Shield with a $20 co pay as their insurance carrier. With BCBS Federal Employee’s can see a mental health provider within a few days. There are a lot of excellent mental health providers who are in network with BCBS.  My question to the American Government is, why can’t our Veterans also have Blue Cross & Blue Shield insurance as well so they can get the help they need?

Our active duty Military Personnel have Tri Care insurance, which is a Government funded insurance company managed very much like the VA. Why can’t our active duty Military Personnel have Blue Cross & Blue Shield insurance as well?

This is not a political bash on the Democratic Party or Republican Party, just simply a question to our government. This practice of the American Government giving arguably the worse insurance and care in America to our Veterans and Active Duty Military Personnel has been going on for decades.

 

Troubled Teens

Parenting a teen is never easy, especially if they are taking part in reckless behaviors like abusing alcohol, using drugs, or is violent and depressed.  While parenting a troubled teen can often seem like an impossible task, there are steps you can take to ease the chaos at home and help your teen become a successful adult.

As they grow older, teens begin to assert their independence, because of this, they may experience behavioral changes that can seem bizarre to the parents.  Therefor, it is important for parents to understand which behaviors are normal during adolescent development and which are indicators of a more serious problem.

  • Changing in appearance is typical teen behavior, although if it is accompanied by problems at school or self-harm it is a problem.
  • Mood swings are normal due to hormone changes, although sudden persistent sadness, anxiety, or sleep problems can be a sign of depression.
  • Increased arguments is typical teen behavior as they begin to seek independence, although violence at home, getting in fights at school, and run-ins with the law are all red flags.

If you see a red flag behavior in you teen you should consult a doctor, counselor or therapist. At Star Point Counseling Center, we specialize in helping troubled teens get back on the right track. We can help your teen through the stages of change, to increase compliance with rules and laws, encourage positive peer selection, improve academic status, and overall goal directed behavior. If you have any questions or wish to speak to a counselor please give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

Family Stress

Family dynamics significantly impact one’s health in both positive and negative ways. Having a close-knit and supportive family provides emotional support, economic well-being, and increases overall health. Although, the opposite is also true. One’s health tends to be negatively affected by family stress and conflict. Families characterized by conflict, anger, and aggression have a particularly negative effect on the children in the home.

At Start Point Counseling Center, we can help you identify specific family dynamics that compromise the quality of home life for you and your children. We encourage strong, loving, high functioning, and spiritually grounded family lifestyles.

Without pointing the finger of blame, shame or chastisement, we work to identify the factors that may contribute to a breakdown in communication in the home. So, if you are experiencing tension and stress from your family dynamic please visit our website starpointcounselingtampa.com or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

Enjoy the little things…Holiday stress!

Sometimes it is difficult to remember to sit back and enjoy the holidays with the people you love. We spend so much time shopping, wrapping presents, returning presents, and attending holiday parties, all while already attending to our already busy schedule.

Here are some times to help you enjoy the holidays:

  • Try to find peace and joy in the season and focus on the moment you are in and not about the future.
  • Plan ahead, sometimes starting early with the decorations will help set your mind to ease. It’s never fun procrastinating setting up the Christmas tree and spending weeks worrying about it.
  • Try to keep the same routine for your kids, because they feel more secure when their days follow a predictable order. This helps keep your household peaceful and running well.
  • Remember what the holidays are about. Try not to get caught up so much with the physical aspects of the holidays, but instead remember its about spending time with the people you love. Try to shop less and focus on family time and de-stressing. Don’t forget to laugh! Laughter is the best medicine!:)