It costs more to get a divorce then to get marriage counseling!

Does this sound familiar: You look at your spouse and wonder if this is even the same person you married… After all, you fight all the time. You never sleep together. You’re not sure you even love them anymore. You feel like cheating on them or wonder if they have been cheating on you. It’s nothing like it was when you first got marriage and were completely devoted to each other, is it? Should you even try to save a marriage like that?

Absolutely. Too many couples give up and move on to the terrible alternative: divorce. Divorce is no picnic.  Divorce cost more marriage counseling does. You can’t escape the knowledge that you failed in your marriage. Imagine the disrupted lives. The overwhelming expense. What about the children if you have them? Maybe you think your kids would be better not to have to hear all the fighting. But you know what’s better? Not fighting anymore!

Look, it’s not easy to save a marriage, but it can be done and it is not as hard as you think. I learned how to save a marriage and you can too. Your spouse may have given up already, but the fact that YOU want to find out the answer indicates that you have the number one most important thing going for you: commitment. Good for you.

The key to improving things is to change the way you look at your spouse. Most of us only have a very unclear idea of our partner’s thinking process; very little understanding of what drives this person to fight and argue with us. Do you know that when your spouse gets angry, the anger is often caused by FEAR? Ask yourself, what is he or she afraid of? Is fear making them defensive? You might find that you can sympathize more with them when you understand where they are coming from. Next time your spouse gets angry at you, instead of lashing out at them defensively and making things worse, calmly take a second to ask yourself what is is that your spouse is afraid of? (Don’t ask your spouse this question or they might hit the roof. This is no time to engage them, wait till the “steam” has passed).

This is just an example of the tools and skills we teach our clients who come to Star Point Counseling Center in Tampa FL. & Brandon Fl. for Marriage Counseling, Relationship Counseling, Couples Counseling or Family Counseling. 813-244-1251

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Marriage Counseling & Couples Counseling in Tampa Fl. & Brandon Fl.

Star Point Counseling Center in Tampa Fl. & Brandon Fl. offers marriage counseling and couples counseling with trained counselors from a variety of backgrounds and approaches. Marriage Counseling or couples Counseling can help individuals work through relationship dynamics, conflict, normal life stressors and more. Below is a list of some of the issues our counselors can help with:

  • Communication
  • Relationship dynamics
  • Infidelity
  • Sexual addiction
  • Addiction and codependence
  • Parenting
  • Separation/divorce
  • Conflict resolution
  • Finding love for a lifetime
  • Spirituality as a resource to enhance the relationship
  • Pre-marital counseling
  • PREPARE/ENRICH

Does it feel like you have the same fights or conversation over and over again? Does it feel like you spouse or partner never listens.  Are you two going through some major life-transitions or changes, like having a baby, loss of job, divorce, teenage trouble, a child going through the terrible two’s?  Or are dealing with major issues like substance abuse, anger, or even violence in the relationship?

Relationships, whether between married couples, non-married couples, or partners all have their challenges … and sometimes it feel like there is nowhere to turn!.  Are you feeling you’ve hit the end-of-your-rope and it’s time to make some major changes?  Since you’ve taken an important first step by being at this website, we want you to know that relationship therapy, also known as marriage counseling, or couples counseling has helped even the most troubled relationships … so there is hope!

Marriage therapy and relationships counseling focuses on improving communication, bringing back trust into your relationship, and can help you improve your conflict resolution skills.

Hours and Availability

We offer services Monday through Friday noon to 8 PM and on Saturdays 10 AM to 3 PM at both of the locations. 813-244-1251

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MARRIAGE COUNSELING IN BRANDON FL. by STAR POINT COUNSELING CENTER

SEX AND INTIMACY

IF YOU DON’T HAVE A GOOD CONNECTION OUTSIDE THE BEDROOM, YOU WON’T HAVE A GOOD ONE IN THE BEDROOM.

Feeling safe emotionally is a must to feel safe and vulnerable when you are naked!  Getting intimacy back with your partner is a huge part of couples counseling.  If you aren’t feeling that connection, and love or other things are missing for you, you are going to feel a disconnect on many levels.

HERE ARE JUST A FEW THINGS THAT MIGHT BE PRESENT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP…

  • Different Sexual Appetites and Desires
  • Life Transitions Impacting Sex (babies, parents moving in, medical issues)
  • Sexua Abuse History
  • Affairs and Infidelity
  • Loss of connection

We can help you reconnect and find that closeness that seems to have vanished.  We don’t shy away from the issue, SEX matters!  We can explore all the issues with you to talk about what you like, what you don’t like and why.  Do you know what turns you on but your partner doesn’t know?

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The Betrayed of Sexual Betrayal

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Infidelity Counseling Tampa Fl. & Brandon Fl.

Experiencing infidelity or being cheated on in a committed relationship is devastating and traumatic. With an affair, one’s world is truly turned upside down. One’s immediate reaction is denial and shock as they generate other plausible explanations for finding damning texts, emails, pictures, or voicemails on their partner’s phone or iPad. As the realization sets in, one feels the devastating blow that the person they believed was there unconditionally to protect them and love them has now violated all their trust and their sense of security, has tainted all their memories that occurred during the lifespan of the affair, and has now potentially exposed them to disease. The betrayed becomes fraught with obsession for answers and information about the affair, with unwanted visualizations of their partner in sex acts with the other person, and with a sense that they did not measure up or could not please their partner in comparison to the affair partner. Moreover, the betrayed is often filled with mixed feelings about saving the relationship, running like hell, paying their partner back by having an affair of their own, ruining their spouse’s good name, and calling a divorce attorney.

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MARRIAGE COUNSELING & COUPLES COUNSELING TAMPA FL & BRANDON FL.

With guidance from Couples Therapy at Star Point Counseling Center in Tampa Fl. & Brandon Fl., a relationship or marriage can get back on course. When differences get the better of a relationships, stress, worry, anxiety, frustration and anger can result. If the root causes are not addressed through Couples Therapy at Star Point Counseling Center in Tampa Fl. & Brandon Fl., the relationship may deteriorate and cause depression for one, if not both partners, and spill over to other relationships with family or close friends.

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Why Marriage Counseling?

Marriage Counseling, Relationship Counseling, Couples Counseling in Tampa Fl. and Brandon Fl.  at Star Point Counseling Center.

We all realize that difficulties cluster around major events; for instance, trading the single life for coupledom, having a baby, financial difficulties, sexual differences, career changes, lifestyle changes, or retirement. Therapists understand the diverse feelings that exist in these situations. We help the couple make sense of those experiences.

We offer a space in which difficult feelings can be explored between the couple without judgment or blame. Our role is to provide a safe and informed place in which a couple can become clear about what is happening between them, allowing them to make healthy choices. Therefore, couples can move on and make decisions with greater clarity and understanding.

Through our couples therapy in Tampa Fl & Brandon Fl., we help couples more truthfully know themselves and each other. This leads to a better understanding of how their inner selves are affecting their day-to-day, outer lives.

Couples Counseling is not an easy process at times. There is much on the line for couples, families, and individuals who are facing such difficulties. The journey may be hard, but the rewards are great. An initial consultation will enable you to discover whether marriage counseling or couples therapy will be a way forward for you.

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WHY RELATIONSHIP COUNSELING?

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As a couple we create a container which holds all our hopes, fears and desires. When a relationship works, it leads to an immensely fulfilling life. However, as many of us find out, it is not always like that. We may realize that the friendship is not what we expected. Our chosen partner is not quite the person we imagined them to be. The container of our couple starts to feel less secure.

Many people are able to adjust to life changes and reshape the relationship, but in some cases, change feels as if the container is breaking up, the foundations are cracking. Disappointment, anger, and fear begin to replace the initial hopes. It is at this point that help is required.

Getting the help you need

The sooner issues are addressed, the easier they are to work out. Sometimes, marriage counseling or couples therapy is all that is needed, providing a space for the couple to think and to explore their situation.

Marriage Counseling can offer the opportunity to understand the deeper, more unconscious blockages and patterns in a relationship. This frequently links to our earliest and most powerful emotional experiences. Through mutual understanding, a couple often finds new strategies for enjoying their relationship.

What happens in therapy?

Talking to a couples therapist about one’s most private and intimate relationship is a brave thing to do. Seeking professional help is a big step toward dealing with these issues, and it takes courage.

Through experience we know that difficulties between couples are very rarely due to just one person. We are complex individuals with all sorts of fears, hopes, fantasies, and needs. A relationship specialist provides a place where these issues can be explored and expressed without the world coming to an end. Couples counseling is a place in which anything can be said, but these words need not lead to action until a strategy becomes clear.

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Apoligizing

Sometimes we want to blame each other for our feelings and it’s understandable, we hurt each other for sure, but the only thing that we can do in life is take responsibility for our own behavior. We hope our partners will do the same, but let it start with you. The first thing you need to do is to examine every incident. You have a fight, for instance, examine your part in it. I know it’s easy to examine the other person and how they hurt you – that’s usually the first thing we think about. I don’t want you to think about whether the chicken or the egg or who was first. What did you do that was disrespectful? What did you say that was meant to be hurtful? Was it reactive? If it was reactive, it probably wasn’t very kind. StarPoint Counseling Center Tampa Fl. & Brandon Fl does marriage counseling & couples counseling.

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How to apologize to your partner

I’m going to give you some information that could save your relationship. Making amends and knowing how to apologize in a good way is essential to happiness, it’s essential for not having baggage in your relationship, for healing things up so they don’t have to carry weight for either one of you in the future, and it just brings a lot more happiness in our lives.

There is a couple of things that people do that does not work very well. One of them is justifiable behavior which is basically: “I’m not going to apologize because you did something to me.” In other words: “I’m justified in my poor behavior because you hurt me first,” something like that. That’s a trap because we all are responsible for our behavior. We have the right to take care of ourselves in any given situation. Yes, we do get hurt sometimes and we have to deal with that, but we ourselves cannot retaliate or it never ends. We step on each other’s toes and everyone retaliates, and it gets worse.
Another thing is that sometimes people say: “Sorry” just to appease their partner. “I know you’re hurt and upset by what I’ve done.” I have no idea whether it’s wrong or right, or I may not even think it was wrong of me, but I’m going to say “sorry” anyways. That doesn’t work for a lot of reasons. First of all, you’re going to keep doing that behavior most likely and it’s not going to stop, so “sorry” is not going to work. Second of all, you don’t actually mean it. People are very smart and intuitive, and they can tell you don’t mean it; it’s just not very authentic. At Star Point Counseling Center in Tampa Fl. & Brandon Fl. we work with our couples on how to apologize to each other properly.

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Anxiety Counseling at Star Point Counseling Center Tampa Fl. & Brandon Fl.

Anxiety Counseling at Star Point Counseling Center Tampa Fl. & Brandon Fl. has 10 dedicated mental health professional who can help you give voice to your fears, thoughts and emotions in a space of validation and respect. By talking about your anxiety, you open yourself up to changing the way you think about yourself and the world around you. You can make it possible to discover just how capable and resilient you are.

A large part of healing involves vocalizing your thoughts. So, I like to begin sessions by listening to your story, learning about the way you view the world and hearing how anxiety affects you.

Throughout our conversations, we’ll explore possible family of origin issues and identify current stressors. We’ll look at your medical history to make sure that your anxiety isn’t indirectly linked to or exacerbated by a medical condition, such as menopause, perimenopause, respiratory disorders or thyroid problems.

We will also identify triggers for panic attacks and address avoidance behaviors so that you don’t walk around in a constant state of high tension. You truly do have the power to change how your mind works. In time, you can learn why anxiety manifests, how it affects you and how to calm yourself so that you are in control of your mind and body.

Each person responds differently to therapy, so I want to understand what makes your situation unique and which methods will treat your anxiety most effectively. We’ll look at how slight shifts in nutrition, exercise or sleeping habits can activate your body’s natural ability to increase levels of the “feel good” chemicals serotonin and dopamine. Or, we can target tendencies of perfectionism—a common trait among people with anxiety—and explore time management strategies for accomplishing stressful tasks. I can also help you learn to be assertive, say no confidently and create healthy relationships with boundaries that serve your needs, not just those of everyone else.

In our sessions, I can teach you abdominal breathing, mindfulness and progressive muscle relaxation techniques that can calm your mind, relax your body and keep you grounded in the present. If you are struggling with depression and anxiety, I can also help you address and overcome issues of self-worth so that you are not battling two monsters at once. I also offer EMDR for trauma related-anxiety that focuses on visualization, breathing and grounding strategies for managing symptoms of PTSD.

Dealing with anxiety alone can be overwhelming; however, with support and guidance, you really can change the way you think, feel and look at the world. It is possible—and profoundly rewarding—to break free of problematic behavior patterns and enjoy a greater sense of awareness, peace and calm in life.

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