Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is Useful for: Depression, anxiety, eating disorders, mood disorders, phobias.

Based on the idea that we can make permanent changes in the way we behave by shifting our negative patterns of thinking, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT for short) is short-term and goal-oriented. The therapist and patient work together to identify the behaviors the patient wants to change and then come up with an action plan to do so.

What to Expect: Sessions are structured and the relationship with the therapist can be more “business-like” than in other kinds of therapy. In other words, the patient and therapist will work together to identify and change problematic patterns of thinking and behaving. The patient is given “homework,” which consists of keeping a record of his or her thoughts, feelings, and behaviors between sessions. At Starpoint Counseling Center, we have licensed and trained therapist that will work with you.

Term of Treatment: Four to seven months, with meetings every one to three weeks. Call or text us at Starpoint Counseling Center (813) 244-1251, to schedule your appointment.

Visit us on the web at:

http://www.starpointcounselingtampa.com

http://www.starpointcounselingbrandon.com

http://www.affordablecounselingbrandon.com

 

Why do we hurt the ones we love?

The people we know and love the most are the same people we’re most awful to in word and deed. Often times it is because we expect too much from them. We hope that they can help us, that they can do all the things we are not capable of doing; moreover, that they have to do them, because of the love we invest in them. When they don’t, we feel disappointed and the natural instinct is to get angry and act out. Also, the people we love and care for are the ones who have the courage to be honest and tell us the truth, even when it hurts. And even though we know it is the truth, it still hurts and the pain can cause violent reactions

Many times we expect the people we love to just know what we are thinking, and when that doesn’t happen, we feel misunderstood. We wish they could make a journey inside our head and see things the way we see them, just because we think it is the right way. We simply can’t understand why they think differently and how they can miss something that seems so simple and obvious to us. In addition, we misunderstand them because we’re not always willing to try to understand them.

We love them but in the same time we hate them because they know our weaknesses and there’s no way we can hide. The mask we wear in relation with other people is put aside and all the things we usually try to hide come to the surface

Lastly, We trust them and we know deep in our hearts that, no matter what we do, they won’t stop loving us. We feel safe to take our frustrations on them because we think there will be no consequences. We hurt them most of the times because they let us hurt them.

Standing your ground

Everyday, from the moment we wake up, we live our lives caring what other people think of us. We tip toe our way through life by doing things in order to please others, not because it’s what we believe in. Eventually our actions, appearances, and lives become molded by how we think other people perceive us.

Living a life that follows what other people think is a terrible way to live. We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us. But the truth is —  everyone is thinking the exact same thing, and everyone is too busy thinking about ourselves and our own shortcomings to worry about others.

It’s impossible to live up to everyone’s expectations. There will always be people ,  no matter what we say or how we treat them , that will judge us. You will never be able to stop people from judging you, but you can stop it from affecting you! Do not let other people’s perception of you effect your perception of yourself.

 

Living life according to “the plan”

“Life is what happens while you are making other plans.” ~John Lennon
       Getting fixated on plans will often times lead to disappointment. We tend to plan out our lives rigorously and not know what to do when things do not go as we anticipated. Sometimes you might need to make minor adjustments to your life plans in order to enjoy the journey of life. Other times, major changes might be necessary, either way, that’s your opportunity to experience all that this world has to offer.
     Learning to find joy and happiness with life’s surprises takes time, but you will no longer find yourself being constantly disappointed or stressed or looking around wondering what happened to the life you thought you’d have.
      You can develop the habit of seeing the good in everything, even when life doesn’t go according to “the plan.”
      If you are having a hard time coping with the changes in your life, at Star Point Counseling Center, we can help you. If you have any questions or wish to speak to a counselor please give us a call at (813)-244-1251

Grieving the loss of a loved one

Grieving is something that everyone endures at one point in their life. It is an individual experience that depends on someone’s personality, coping style, life experiences, and faith. The grieving process takes time and cannot be forces or hastened.

Here are some misconceptions are grieving:

  • The pain will go away faster if you ignore it.

Trying to ignore your pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long run. For real healing it is necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it. This may be in the form of therapy and talking it out.

  • It’s important to be “be strong” in the face of loss.

Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. When grieving, it is important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to naturally unfold without holding yourself back, from fear or being “weak.”

  • Grief should last about a year only

There is no right or wrong time frame for grieving. How long it takes can differ from person to person. Some people start to feel better in weeks, while it takes others years to cope with their loss.

At Star Point Counseling Center, we have licensed counseling therapists available to help you get through the loss of a loved one. So, if you are having a problem coping with a loss and want to talk about it and learn ways to move forward please visit our website at  starpointcounselingtampa.com  or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

 

Tips for social anxiety

Many people endure shyness, panic and anxiety even to the thought of having to meet or mingle with others. They will experience dry mouth, pounding heart, shaky voice, rapid breathing, sweating, blushing and an upset stomach. Because of this, they tend to avoid people all together. Here are some tips to help you if you are experiencing these symptoms:

  • Relax prepare yourself for whats to come and begin to think about the situation while in a relaxed state.
  • Seek out social situations actively put yourself in social situations so they will become “normal” and  not something that builds up dear anymore.
  • Ask questions social phobia has us worrying about what other people think about us. Cultivate curiosity and ask people open questions and interact with them.
  • Be yourself don’t be scared to “make a fool’ our of yourself or worry about being “perfect.” Just relax and be yourself!

At Star Point Counseling Center, we have licensed counseling therapists available to help you social anxiety. So, if you are having a problem interacting with people or going to new places and want to talk about it and learn ways to cope with your anxiety, please visit our websitestarpointcounselingtampa.com or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

Nervous about your first counseling session? Here is what you can expect!

Going to counseling can be scary and nerve racking, but knowing what to expect can help ease those nerves and help you get better results. There is nothing to be scared or nervous about, your therapist is here to help you get through whatever it is you may be going through.

In your first session your therapist will ask you certain questions about you and your life. This information will help them make an initial assessment of your situation and help them begin creating a treatment plan. Some of the questions your therapist might ask include: why you are seeking therapy, your personal history (family,upbringing, etc.), your current situation, and your current symptoms. These questions will help them better understand what is going on.

Counseling is a team effort and requires active participation on your end. Here are some things you can do to make your first session as successful as possible: answer questions openly, honestly, and don’t be afraid to discuss your feelings, be prepared to describe what and how you are feeling, and make sure to ask questions about the process or anything you may have concerns about.

Therapy is not a quick fix, it is a process that takes time and patience. With active participation on your part and a strong relationship with your counselor, you will be very successful at resolving your problems.

Call us today for more information about the counseling process and what to expect! (813)244-1251

Staff Update

In a previous blog we introduced new Registered Intern, Carrie Schroeder. Here is a pic of our new therapist!

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For more information on our wonderful, qualified, and experienced therapists check out our website at http://www.starpointcounselingtampa.com or http://www.starpointcounselingbrandon.com. Or, if you are in the Tampa Bay area and would like to set up an appointment, give us a call at 813-244-1251.

Star Point Counseling Welcomes Carrie Schroeder

Star Point Counseling welcomes new counselor Carrie Schroeder. Carrie graduated in 2011 from the University of West Florida in Pensacola, Fl. Carrie is currently a Registered Mental Health Counselor Intern working towards licensure. She is under the clinical direction of Clarissa Crystal-Belle.

Carrie is just one of many great therapists we have on staff here at Star Point Counseling Center. For more information on our staff and counseling services, visit our website at http://www.starpointcounselingtampa.com.

Religion and Counseling

Religion and Spiritual Orientation are topics asked about during the therapy intake, and throughout counseling sessions. Counselors must heed their own personal bias of the subject, so they do not influence the client’s opinions or beliefs on the subject. It is unethical for a counselor to force or encourage any religious or spiritual beliefs on a client because the therapist is sometimes seen as an authority figure by the client. (Exception is given to Christian counseling centers and therapists who label themselves as such, as the client is in full knowledge of the therapy’s spiritual base). But why are spiritual beliefs, or lack there of, important to the counseling process? Are they essential or just a small part of the story? In the coming blogs we will attempt to give you some empirical data and researched information regarding how this aspect of being may or may not influence counseling and the therapeutic outcome. But first, we want to know what you think? Is spiritual orientation and/or religious denomination important aspects of mental health counseling?

We look forward to hearing from you!!!!

For more information about Star Point Counseling and our services, visit our website at http://www.starpointcounselingtampa.com.

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