Are You Living A Balanced Life?

Clarissa Crystal-Belle, LMHC works with couples, families and individuals counseling in both Brandon, Florida and Tampa, Florida,  at the Star Point Counseling Center, helping improve the quality of their daily life experience.  She refers to the following five aspects of being:

  • Spiritual
  • Personal
  • Family/Social
  • Educational/Occupational
  • Recreational

She explains that by allowing deficits in one or more of the five aspects, all other aspects of being are compromised. Simply put, if you are not connected and fulfilled spiritually you will not be content. If you do not nurture, tender, and discipline yourself, on a personal level, you will have little to give in any relationship. If you are starving spiritually, personally, and interpersonally, you will have less of yourself to apply in the workplace, and, if you do not refresh yourself in healthy ways, you will compromise the quality of your life in every other aspect of being.

Clarissa contends that one of the biggest obstacles to sustainging a meaningful relationship with a loved one is stress. She points out that stress is more of a state of mind than a testament of circumstances. She has said,

“When people put too much emphasis on the getting and keeping of things and not enough on raising their consciousness of all that they have received and everyting they have yet to give, it stresses them out.”

Stress also comes from lamenting too much about the time it took and all that occurred to get them there, without balancing that with an appreciation or meaningful plans for the time they have left.

Divorce Rate in Tampa – One of the Highest in the Country?

Current news stated that the divorce rate, in Tampa, Florida and surrounding areas, including Brandon, Florida, is one of the highest in the nation.

At the Star Point Counseling Center, Clarissa Crystal-Belle, LMHC  provides tools, skills, and strategies to help couples improve their communication and the overall quality of their relationship. Couples who have come to our office has asked for tools that they can take home and use to improve their relationship, only because they do not have time for counseling with therapists. Reason being, they do not want to delve into the deepest, darkest passages of their lives to root out the causes of their discontent. They simply want things to work out between them so they can get on with the tasks of running their households, tending to their children, doing well at thier jobs and enjoying what little “me time” and “us time” they can get.

Check out our web site at StarPointCounselingTampa to learn more about her areas of expertise, methods,  availability and affordability.

Tips For Raising Troubled Teens

The Star Point Counseling Center provides counseling in Brandon as well as counseling in Tampa and surrounding areas to parents of children of all ages. The Clinical Director, Clarissa Crystal-Belle, LMHC provides Mental Health Services while the Executive Director, Sam DiFranco provides Life Coaching services to families seeking tools, skills, and strategies for improving the quality of family life in the home.

Clarissa wants to direct the content of this blog to parents of preteens and teens. Confrontation and incrimination often cause a barrier between parent and teen, she said. Her suggestion for modifying a teen’s attitude or behavior is this;  “Whenever you feel the urge to push, pull instead!” When you are tempted to say, “get out!,” instead say, “come here!” while patting the seat beside you, or turning your stance slightly to the side, as if to make room for your son or daughter to safely enter your personal space. Repeat the invitation, “Come on. Come over here for a minute.”

Of course, depending on how forceful you, the parent, have been in the past, the (pre)teenager might be intimadated at first. He or she might tell you, in no uncertain terms, that approaching you is the last thing that is going to happen. This is not the response they want to give, but it is one they have learned to give, because approaching you, looking into your eyes, hearing the words coming out of your mouth, or standing within arms reach of you, has hurt them, in the past, and ultimately made them mad. It is likely that the parent-child relationship has become so automatic in the way you hurt each other, that it will take many invitations before you are to be believed.

Clarissa speaks to parents and teachers of pre-teens and teenagers, explaining how to avoid the escalation of negativity and anger in parent/child and teacher/student communication. She works with young people and their families in Brandon, Tampa, and surrounding areas. At the Star Point Counseling Center, she helps parents learn how to de-escalate conflict in the family home while dissolving communication barriers and improving family relationships. She teaches parents how to turn willfulness into willingness, defiance into compliance, and resistance to authority into acceptance of, respect for, and adherence to reasonable rules, laws, and limits at home and at school.

Check out our website at StarpointCounselingTampa to learn more about Clarissa Crystal-Belle, LMHC and the services offered at the Star Point Counseling Center located in between Brandon, Florida and Tampa, Florida. Stay tuned for more tips from Clarissa and if you have any questions, comments, or concerns, email to Starpointcenter@aol.com.

Free Back to School Tips for Parents

FREE CLASS – BACK TO SCHOOL TIPS FOR PARENTS

SIGN UP TODAY! CALL (813) 244-1251 to R.S.V.P.

You, the parent, want your child to earn good grades, to develop and maintain positive peer relationships, to demonstrate an awareness of and empathy for others, to be compliant with reasonable rules, laws, and limits, and to manage distress without psychological or emotional impairment.

At Star Point Counseling Center, we will be providing a free class with tips designed to help you realize those goals. Our class will include a discussion of the following points:

  • Protective factors that contribute to your child’s mental health
  • Why some children and youth do not develop mental or emotional problems, even in the most adverse and trying circumstances
  • Risk factors that may impact a child’s mental and emotional health
  • Common childhood mental and emotional disorders
  • How to identify the signs and symptoms and the most effective treatments

Space is limited so do not delay in making your R.S.V.P. for this class! We look forward to seeing you there.

FYI:  A Star Point Counseling Center Therapist will be available after each one of our classes. If  you would like to continue in these type of classes for parents, we will be available to make your reservations for future group classes as well. Moreover, if you feel you would benefit from Individual, Couple, or Family Counseling, do not hesitate to talk with a Therapist or the Office Manager to schedule an appointment.