Has anyone ever told you that you mean well but you come across as something different? Is there a certain group or type of person that tells you this? Then you may be giving off a vibe in your communications and are not aware of it.
We sometimes have women who come in and communicate differently to men than they do to women and they do not realize they are doing it. This is also true for some men as well towards women. It can be because they had a verbally abusive father, were traumatized by a man or physically abused by a man. This is also true for some men as well towards women.
When this happens the communication is negative and defensive thus breaking down any form of assertive communication that may exist.
If you feel this is happening to you then call Star Point Counseling Center at 813-244-1251 and set an appointment to see one of our therapists to help you work through your perceived communication.
“Troubled children are distanced, humiliated, and ashamed when they do something wrong and are often repeatedly blamed for something they did not do. Many of them have also learned how it feels to be blamed, over and over again, for something they did do wrong and to never be forgiven. They know how it feels to be forgotten, ignored, and abandoned.”
“Children who are repeatedly put down feel that everyone else is better and more lovable than they are. They begin to feel and believe that they will never fit in.”
“Our children need to know that they do belong, right here, with you and me.”
Clarissa Crystal-Belle, LMHC has published her first book. Therapy in Action With Troubled Kids is now available in paperback in all of the bookstores and online for less than $15. This is a must read for anyone who works with children in schools, daycare, Department of Children and Families, Children Police Investigations, Foster Homes, Divorce and Custody Attorney’s and Parents. The book is not your ordinary self help book on how to raise children, it is very intuitive and insightful.
Clarissa Crystal-Belle, LMHC is Co Founder and Executive Clinical Director at Star Point Counseling Center. Clarissa has extensive experience working with children in corrections, DCF and with the court system. The book is based on her experiences working as a Therapist.
Please visit out web site starpointcounselingtampa.com to view Clarissa’s Bio.
Mental health problems in children are common, real, and treatable. Without treatment there is an increased risk in behavioral problems at school, decline in grades, suicide, trouble with the criminal justice system, and more. With the help of teachers and other caregivers, parents can identify these problems early on and can determine whether or not help should be sought out for the child.
If you recognize the following signs, then professional help may be needed:
Decline in school performance
Poor grades in spite of strong efforts
Constantly worried or feeling anxious
Repeated refusal to go to school or to take part in normal activities
Hyperactivity or fidgeting
Persistent disobedience or aggression
Frequent temper tantrums
Depression, sadness or irritability
If you suspect a problem, or just have questions and concerns contact us to see a Mental Health professional. (813)244-1251
With the pressures from finals, GPA scores, and college admissions, school can easily become one of the most stressful things in our lives. Whether its parents and teachers pushing you to do your best, or your own drive to get the highest test scores and attend the best college in the state, stress can consume you unless you know the proper way to manage it.
Here are 5 tips for getting through the school year with less stress:
Self-care. You have to start with the basics, take the time to get enough sleep, eat healthy, and enjoy activities that will get your mind off of the stress that comes with school.
Learn to change your thinking. You can’t get stress out unless you believe your thoughts, stress comes from stressful thinking. You have to learn to change your negative thoughts into positive ones. Instead of stressing out about finishing a project on time, think about open slots in your schedule that you can use to get it done.
Take bite sized proportions. Assignments become easier when you manage them in smaller proportions than just looking at the big picture. Instead of writing a 9 page essay in one day, do the assignment in chunks. This technique makes it feel more manageable and less anxiety-inducing.
Lower your goals. I know this may seem odd because you are always told to set your goals high, but setting smaller and lower goals helps reduce stress and boost academic success. Instead of aiming for the highest grade in the class, aim for a grade that you will feel satisfied with your performance.
Stay balanced. No matter how hard you push yourself during exam weeks, no body can remain focused for such long periods of time. Give yourself short breaks to do activities you enjoy, that way you will be refreshed when you go back to studying.
Stress can turn your best school year into your worst. School doesn’t have to be all about stressing over finals, and GPA scores. If you know how to effectively manage your stress, then you can also enjoy what great and fun things school has to offer, like making new friends and participating in sports and clubs.
Don’t let your stress consume you, give us a call today to schedule an appointment if you are feeling stressed and need help managing your time, focusing, etc. (813)244-1251