New Year, Better You

It seems that everywhere we go we keep hearing about who/what 2016 has taken from us. While we may have all experienced pain and sadness at some point during the year, what about everything that 2016 gave us?  While the year may have had some harsh times and we may have done things that we are not proud of, I think we can all agree that 2016 taught us something.  Learning experiences. Better ideas. Another step closer to finding out who we are as a person and what we stand for and maybe even what we won’t stand for.

At the end of the day, are you happy with your choices?  Have you learned to ask for forgiveness? Have you learned how to forgive others and yourself?  If you are tired of not having joy in your life, are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, experiencing grief or are afraid of the “what ifs,” give us a call.  You don’t have to go through 2017 alone.

Live life to the fullest and don’t be afraid.  Make good choices. Are you ready to make 2017 the best year yet?

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Enough is Enough

Have you ever been in an argument that you were so ready to tell the other person off because you just knew, without a doubt, that you were right?

Most of the time, the arguments that are the hardest to work out are the ones where both people are right.  Both sides make a good point and they each make sense.  So how do you decide what to do? What’s the next step?  For some, they may try to avoid the situation.  For others, they may continue to try to persuade the other person into thinking their way and when the other person doesn’t budge a brand new argument erupts.  Sound familiar?

If you know the feelings behind their actions, it is easier to remedy the situation.  Stop for a minute and think what the situation looks like from the outside looking in.  Are you able to see from their perspective?  Are you trying or even willing to stop trying to be right and understand what they are feeling… are they willing to do the same?  We must learn to validate, rather than judge and dismiss other’s views and perspectives.  Rather than judging others for “what” they think, maybe we can stop and look at their experiences that have led them to think that way in the first place.  We all have our battles.  We all have our challenges.  We all are going through things that, often times, nobody else may know about.  Be kind.  Listen.  Let’s let our guard down for just one moment and imagine what it would feel like to read what our partner, family member, friend is feeling and what they are trying to convey to us.  While they may be saying hurtful things, try to look at the big picture.  What may seem like anger and hate could actually be hurt and pain.  Nobody wants to look weak.  Meet them in the middle.  Listen to understand, don’t listen to ask your next question.  Give, receive, and celebrate as you go along.

Let us teach you the tools you need to enrich your relationships.  Only you can decide when enough is enough.

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Free To Choose, Not Free From The Consequences

The holidays are here.  If you find yourself having difficulty coming to terms with the idea that you will be seeing family members that you would rather not see, remind yourself that you have rights.  While being respectful, stand up for your rights.  Does the outcome outweigh the bad? If you say something, will it be worth it? If you find yourself on the wrong end and make a mistake, remember: While apologies help, compassion will go much farther than an apology ever will.

When speaking to your family members, try to remember to respond rather than to react.  If this sounds easier said than done, give us a call.

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Get Rid of the Rug

Do you remember when your relationship was new? Do you remember what that felt like? All of those good feelings wrapped up inside you….  As the years go by, some of us may lose that feeling and we begin to think that it no longer exists for that special person in our lives.  Anger has a way of fooling us.  The longer we sweep things under the rug the bigger that mound gets.  Anger has a way of hiding love.  “It is there but you can’t see or feel it, because anger is in the way” (C.S. Belle, 2014).  If you are tired of pretending and just going through the motions or if you are tired of thinking that you are being noble and saying  that you are staying “for the kids,”  let’s remember all those good feelings and all of the wonderful reasons that we originally chose our partner.  Give us a call, let’s work on forgiving, healing, and discovering what once made you both joyous.

Quoted from: Therapy in Action with Insights and Strategies for Anyone Living or Working with Troubled Kids, written by C.S. Belle.

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