Everyday, from the moment we wake up, we live our lives caring what other people think of us. We tip toe our way through life by doing things in order to please others, not because it’s what we believe in. Eventually our actions, appearances, and lives become molded by how we think other people perceive us.
Living a life that follows what other people think is a terrible way to live. We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us. But the truth is — everyone is thinking the exact same thing, and everyone is too busy thinking about ourselves and our own shortcomings to worry about others.
It’s impossible to live up to everyone’s expectations. There will always be people , no matter what we say or how we treat them , that will judge us. You will never be able to stop people from judging you, but you can stop it from affecting you! Do not let other people’s perception of you effect your perception of yourself.
“Life is what happens while you are making other plans.” ~John Lennon
Getting fixated on plans will often times lead to disappointment. We tend to plan out our lives rigorously and not know what to do when things do not go as we anticipated. Sometimes you might need to make minor adjustments to your life plans in order to enjoy the journey of life. Other times, major changes might be necessary, either way, that’s your opportunity to experience all that this world has to offer.
Learning to find joy and happiness with life’s surprises takes time, but you will no longer find yourself being constantly disappointed or stressed or looking around wondering what happened to the life you thought you’d have.
You can develop the habit of seeing the good in everything, even when life doesn’t go according to “the plan.”
If you are having a hard time coping with the changes in your life, at Star Point Counseling Center, we can help you. If you have any questions or wish to speak to a counselor please give us a call at (813)-244-1251
Sometimes it is difficult to remember to sit back and enjoy the holidays with the people you love. We spend so much time shopping, wrapping presents, returning presents, and attending holiday parties, all while already attending to our already busy schedule.
Here are some times to help you enjoy the holidays:
Try to find peace and joy in the season and focus on the moment you are in and not about the future.
Plan ahead, sometimes starting early with the decorations will help set your mind to ease. It’s never fun procrastinating setting up the Christmas tree and spending weeks worrying about it.
Try to keep the same routine for your kids, because they feel more secure when their days follow a predictable order. This helps keep your household peaceful and running well.
Remember what the holidays are about. Try not to get caught up so much with the physical aspects of the holidays, but instead remember its about spending time with the people you love. Try to shop less and focus on family time and de-stressing. Don’t forget to laugh! Laughter is the best medicine! 🙂
Grieving is something that everyone endures at one point in their life. It is an individual experience that depends on someone’s personality, coping style, life experiences, and faith. The grieving process takes time and cannot be forces or hastened.
Here are some misconceptions are grieving:
The pain will go away faster if you ignore it.
Trying to ignore your pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long run. For real healing it is necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it. This may be in the form of therapy and talking it out.
It’s important to be “be strong” in the face of loss.
Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. When grieving, it is important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to naturally unfold without holding yourself back, from fear or being “weak.”
Grief should last about a year only
There is no right or wrong time frame for grieving. How long it takes can differ from person to person. Some people start to feel better in weeks, while it takes others years to cope with their loss.
At Star Point Counseling Center, we have licensed counseling therapists available to help you get through the loss of a loved one. So, if you are having a problem coping with a loss and want to talk about it and learn ways to move forward please visit our website at starpointcounselingtampa.com or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.
When a stressful event happens in our life or we are under threat our sympathetic nervous system is activated. This causes our eyes to dilate, our attention to focus, our heart rate to increase, our breathing to become faster and our muscles to tense up. This is all to help you react quickly in order to insure better safety. This is a normal reaction, and it is customary to be shaken by a traumatic event or at the site of danger.
However, if these symptoms last for an extended period of time after the incident, you may want to seek help. If your stress reaction lasts for months on end and is accompanied by a number of other symptoms like reoccurring memories or distress and anxiousness about the event, that are significantly interfering with you life, you should seek professional help.
At Star Point Counseling Center, we have licensed counseling therapists available to help reduce your stress, relieve your pain, and make you feel better. We are here to help you find out how to maximize your productivity and build coping skills. So, if you have experienced a traumatic event and need to talk about it, or want to learn ways to cope with your distress, please visit our website starpointcounselingtampa.com or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.
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Do you retreat into your shell and shut yourself off leaving you no access to the outside world? Or do you reach out to find social support?
While it may seem appealing to crawl into a corner and shut the world out when stressed, it is actually less beneficial to your physical and mental well-being. Retreating when stressed may increase your chances of weight gain or loss, high blood pressure, depression, and anxiety.
On the flip side, reaching out to friends and family for social support is highly beneficial for both your physical and mental well-being. Pursuing social interaction when stressed decreases illnesses, depression, and anxiety. In addition, the larger and more diverse your circle of friends, the better it is for your overall health.
Counseling is an option that allows you to “socialize” by talking to someone and venting about your stress. Not to mention it is very favorable for your mental health. By seeking counseling for stress, you may learn new techniques to incorporate into your everyday life, and reduce the negative results of stress.
Although the holiday season is supposed to make you feel merry and generous, for many people the stress that goes along with the holidays can trigger sadness and depression. This time of year is especially difficult for those people because there is an expectation of being merry and happy, so people compare their own emotions to what they assume others are experiencing and what they should be experiencing.
There are many things that can add to the stress and tough emotions during the holiday season:
Finances. Not having enough or the fear of not having enough money to be able to buy gifts for family and friends. When you can’t afford to celebrate it can feel devastating.
Stress. The stress comes from finding time to go shopping or planning family dinners, when you are already overwhelmed with work and the kids.
Loneliness. Even though the holidays brings families and friends together, there are those who may not have anyone to spend the holidays with.
Grief. For those who have lost a loved one, this may be the first holiday they are spending without that person.
Divorce. If you are recently divorced, the holidays may remind you of the good times you spent together. It can also be stressful for adult children who may have to balance seeing both parents.
Pleasing. Deciding what to get who and how much to spend on everyone can make you feel guilty, like you aren’t doing enough for everyone.
Seasonal Affective Disorder. Many people experience the blues during gloomy weather due to decreased sunlight, called Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).
There are many measures you can take to cope with the holiday blues, for example:
Make plans in advance
Get shopping done early
Make time to rest and rejuvenate
Spend time alone to reflect and grieve
Reach out to others who may be experiencing the same emotions
If you feel the stress and depression creeping up along with the holidays, call us for help before you get too entangled in stress and difficult emotions that comes with the holiday season! (813)244-1251
At Star Point Counseling Center we provide counseling services to individuals, couples, families, children, teens, and adults with any type of crises. Our Mental Health Professionals will help you build tools as well as designing and implementing goals and objectives. We can help you sort out beliefs, thoughts, and behavior patterns that may be hindering you in your relationship(s) whether at the work place or in other areas of your life. By working together, we will show you how to set and achieve goals and objectives, therapeutically designed to meet your needs that will allow you to live the life that you deserve. Our counseling services include, but are not limited to, marriage/relationship counseling, troubled teens, parenting skills, anxiety, stress, depression, divorce/separation, grief/loss, negative behaviors, domestic violence, and more. We accept major insurances such as, Blue Cross Blue Shield, Cigna, and United Behavioral Health. If you do not have insurance we have affordable prices based on household income that range from $40-$100. We have two convenient locations, Tampa and Brandon. The hours at the Tampa office are Monday-Friday 12pm-8pm, and Brandon office Monday-Thursday 12pm-8pm and Saturdays 10am-5pm by appointment only.
Call us today for more information about our services or to make an appointment! (813)244-1251
Our busiest time of the year is closing in on us! All of our counselors are gaining more and more new clients each day, and their schedules are filling up. We want to make sure that you can get the help you need as soon as possible, so we highly recommend that you call to schedule an appointment as soon as you can before we are forced to begin a wait list! We have two locations for your convenience in Brandon and Tampa, and we also accept some major insurance companies and have affordable prices for those who do not have insurance.
Our counselors at the Tampa office are available Monday-Friday 12pm-8pm, and at the Brandon office Monday-Thursday 12pm-8pm and Saturdays anytime by appointment only.
Don’t wait until it’s too late, schedule an appointment while you still can! (813)244-1251, or After hours: (813)479-3510