Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is Useful for: Depression, anxiety, eating disorders, mood disorders, phobias.

Based on the idea that we can make permanent changes in the way we behave by shifting our negative patterns of thinking, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT for short) is short-term and goal-oriented. The therapist and patient work together to identify the behaviors the patient wants to change and then come up with an action plan to do so.

What to Expect: Sessions are structured and the relationship with the therapist can be more “business-like” than in other kinds of therapy. In other words, the patient and therapist will work together to identify and change problematic patterns of thinking and behaving. The patient is given “homework,” which consists of keeping a record of his or her thoughts, feelings, and behaviors between sessions. At Starpoint Counseling Center, we have licensed and trained therapist that will work with you.

Term of Treatment: Four to seven months, with meetings every one to three weeks. Call or text us at Starpoint Counseling Center (813) 244-1251, to schedule your appointment.

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Standing your ground

Everyday, from the moment we wake up, we live our lives caring what other people think of us. We tip toe our way through life by doing things in order to please others, not because it’s what we believe in. Eventually our actions, appearances, and lives become molded by how we think other people perceive us.

Living a life that follows what other people think is a terrible way to live. We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us. But the truth is —  everyone is thinking the exact same thing, and everyone is too busy thinking about ourselves and our own shortcomings to worry about others.

It’s impossible to live up to everyone’s expectations. There will always be people ,  no matter what we say or how we treat them , that will judge us. You will never be able to stop people from judging you, but you can stop it from affecting you! Do not let other people’s perception of you effect your perception of yourself.

 

Marriage Counseling

It takes work and effort to have a healthy marriage. Here are some tips you can use to strengthen your relationship:

  • Spend time with each other! Plan date nights and weekend getaways, by spending time together you will better understand your partner and grow strong together.
  • Learn to negotiate and communicate. Conflict is a normal part of any relationship, although there are boundaries and ways to discuss a problem. Learn to express your thoughts and not assume the other person knows how you feel. Also, don’t forget to let the other person talk.
  • Show respect for each other at all times. Never put down the other person or criticize them.
  • Explore common interests and try new things together.
  • Explore intimacy. Marital intimacy, whether sexual or emotional, can open your relationship to a whole new level of enjoyment and closeness.

At Star Point Counseling Center, we have licensed counseling therapists available to help you with your marriage. So, if you are having a problem with your marriage and need to talk about it, or want to learn ways to build relationships, please visit our website starpointcounselingtampa.com or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

Tips for a Happy Relationship

Tips to finding happiness and satisfaction in a relationship: Express admiration and affection. The idea is to look for ways to appreciate and feel warmth for your partner, and express those things. Send unexpected text messages, leave a loving note near the … Continue reading

Habits of Happy Couples.

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Tips to finding happiness and satisfaction in a relationship:

  1. Express admiration and affection. The idea is to look for ways to appreciate and feel warmth for your partner, and express those things. Send unexpected text messages, leave a loving note near the bathroom sink in the morning, or even do small favors.
  2. Make room in your head. We are happiest when we reserve space in our heads for our significant others.  keeping knowledge in your head about everyday things like important foods or movies adds to your private love map of him or her.
  3. Accept influence from each other. Many people define power in relationships as the control we have over each other, but another way to define power is the balance of influence each person has on the other.
  4. Know your partner’s inner world. A key to happiness in relationships is knowing each other’s meanings and symbols, finding the dreams within conflicts, and creating shared meanings.

Many people say that relationships are hard work, but this is only partly true. The key to happiness in your relationship is learning habits that keep your partner feeling happy and safe. Once you do that the habit will take over and the effort of keeping a happy relationship stops seeming like hard work.

Visit our website for more information on how we can help you learn tips and techniques for keeping a happy relationship! www.starpointcounselingtampa.com

Remind Your Partner of Your Love!

Just as no one is a mind reader when it comes to problems in a relationship, no one is a mind reader for the good points either. You love and appreciate your partner, so let them know it. Every day, remind both yourself and your partner of the love between you. Serve up a compliment first thing in the morning. Think about how happy your partner would be to wake up and see your smiling face and hear, “I love you because…” That one compliment, that one reassurance, can set the tone for the whole day. Call your partner at work, or leave them a loving message on their voice mail. Do thoughtful things for your partner, like bringing them a drink when they are watching TV, ironing their clothes for them, or making them a cup of coffee in the morning. Even the worst day gets brighter when your partner reminds you of how much you’re appreciated and loved. 

These things can seem small, but they can be the glue that reminds each of you that you’re taking this journey together, being with each other through thick and thin, and that you want it this way. Small thoughtful acts can say, “I want you to be happy. I want to make you happy.” 

 

At Star Point Counseling Center, we are here to provide you with the tools and strategies that have saved countless relationships from estrangement, separation, and divorce. Call us today to schedule an appointment with one of our counselors.  We are here to help you improve yourself and your relationship.

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3 Signs Your Relationship is in Trouble

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In all relationships there are ebbs and flows; times when you feel closer and times when you feel more distant. You may go through periods when things are going well, and then find yourselves stuck in conflicts and misunderstandings.

Recognizing that there are problems is the first step toward finding out what you need to do address these problems and nurture your relationship out of troubled waters. Below are three significant indicators that your relationship is in trouble.

1. Prolonged feeling of distance between you and your partner:  All couples go through some periods in which they feel more distant. However, if over time you feel that you are drifting apart, this is a sign that the relationship is not going well.

2. Repeated conflicts that don’t get resolved:  You try to talk about things, but you never seem to get anywhere. It feels like you are stuck in the same argument, and you are feeling consistently misunderstood.

3. Diminished sexual connection:  If you are in a long period of little or no sexual activity, this may be a sign that things are not going well. Keep in mind that it is normal to have times when you are feeling less connected sexually. But prolonged, infrequent sexual connection may indicate a general diminished affection between the two of you.

If you find yourself feeling like you fit into one or more of these three categories, begin looking more closely at what is happening. Here at Star Point Counseling Center, we can help you identify the core issues and assist you in addressing them.

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Letting Go of Resentment

resentful  Are you willing to let go of resentment so you can have more fulfilling relationships?

Believe it or not, one of many simple ways to let go of resentment is choosing to love rather than to hate. That’s right! LOVE! Its the opposite of hate, anger, or fear. Ever heard the phrase “killing ’em with kindness?” Well, that phrase can go a long way.

Think of it like this, if you send love (positivity) toward someone instead of hate (negativity), you actually begin to break down pieces of their wall allowing them to return positivity to you. In other words, by sending love someone’s way, that love comes back to you. It works the same way with hate. If you send hate someone’s way, that hate comes back to you.

What goes around comes back around.

Schedule some time during your day to think loving thoughts about a person you resent. Hint: think of the things that you liked about that person to begin with. Use that time to wish them well and ask for blessings to go their way.

Now I know this is easier said than done, but it can be done. It will feel weird for a little while, maybe for a week, a month, a year or so, but eventually you will begin noticing peace and love where there once was hatred and resentment. You will even begin to mean it. By doing this small, yet simple, exercise you will rebuild your relationships and they will become more fulfilling.

Will you try to let go of your resentment starting today?

 

Read more here: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/4-powerful-tips-to-reduce-resentment-and-feel-happier/

Visit our website today to learn more about how a counselor can help you to deal with feelings of resentment: http://www.starpointcounselingbrandon.com, or http://www.starpointcounselingtampa.com

Chick Flicks For Better Relationships

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When was the last time you took your spouse to see a chick flick? If you can only think back to the beginning of your relationship (i.e. the courting stage), then you may want to revisit that idea after you read this.

“Chick flicks” that tend to have women in tears, and that men find boring, can actually help to strengthen your relationship. According to a study conducted by the University of Rochester, couples who watched movies like “Steel Magnolias” and “Love Story,” and talked about the issues raised, were less likely to divorce or separate than couples in a control group who received no counseling or self-help assignments. This intervention proved to be as effective as intensive couples therapy in keeping couples together. “A movie is a nonthreatening way to get the conversation started” says Ronald D. Rogge, the lead author of the study.

The study compared four groups of couples in a total of 174 couples studied. The first two groups each received one of two types of therapy led interventions called CARE and PREP. The CARE method focuses on acceptance and empathy in couples counseling, and the PREP method focuses on a specific communication style couples use to resolve issues. The third group received the movie intervention, where couples were asked to watch five movies and then take part in a guided discussion. The fourth group, or the control group received no counseling or self-help assignments.

Researchers expected the CARE and PREP methods to have a more profound effect on relationships, and the movie intervention to carry little weight on improvements to relationship quality. Surprisingly, the movie intervention worked just as well as the CARE and PREP methods in reducing divorce and separation. Furthermore, couples who received marriage counseling or the movie intervention were half as likely to divorce or separate after three years when compared to the couples who received no intervention.

Some more recent “chick flicks” that may promote healthy discussions to improve your relationships, as well as laughter to elevate your endorphins, include “Couples Retreat,” “Date Night,” “Love and Other Drugs,” and “She’s having a Baby.” So the next time your spouse wants to watch a movie, make it a chick flick for a better relationship.

You can read the whole article from The New York Times Blog here: http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/02/10/movie-date-night-can-double-as-therapy/?_php=true&_type=blogs&_php=true&_type=blogs&_r=1 

Also, for more information on the study visit http://www.couples-research.com

For more information on Mental Health Counseling, visit our website at http://www.starpointcounselingbrandon.com, or http://www.starpointcounselingtampa.com

Improving Relationships By Reducing Blame

Blaming the other person is one of the most common ways couples tend to destroy their relationships. According to Psychology Today, chronic blaming is a form of emotional abuse. Chronically being blamed for an act that you did not actually commit is like taking a verbal beating. Eventually, the person being blamed will start believing he or she is responsible for things that are beyond his or her control. This feeling of responsibility, otherwise known as “guilt,” later leads to poor self-esteem.

Seeking counseling is a great first step in eliminating blaming behavior and influencing growth and healing in relationships. Learning how to improve communication with your partner will help to increase respect and reduce emotional abuse.

For more information on mental health counseling, visit our website at http://www.starpointcounselingbrandon.com, or http://www.starpointcounselingtampa.com