Teens and Thoughts, Feelings, Behavior

Part of creating a healthy family climate is acknowledging that we’re all in the same boat. None of us is immune to life’s challenges, and we all need help once in a while. Star Point Counseling Center provides tools to help teens recognize the connection between their thoughts, feelings and behaviors, and develop healthier ways of coping.

TFB (thoughts, feelings, behavior) is based on the idea that how we feel and what we do are colored by the way we think. Because we have the ability to change the way we think, we can learn how to have better control of our feelings and our actions.

From time to time, all of us struggle with thoughts, feelings and behaviors that are unproductive or detrimental, and we all find it difficult at times to muster the motivation to take the action needed to interrupt our troublesome outlook and replace it with a healthier, more positive one.

Simply put, a situation arises, and we have thoughts about the facts of that situation; those thoughts trigger feelings, and based on those feelings we engage in behaviors which in turn impact the situation (either positively or negatively), and the cycle continues.

At Star Point Counseling Center, there are two convenient locations for you to choose from in Brandon and Tampa.  

We provide counseling services to individuals, couples, families, children, teens, and adults with any type of crises.  We help you build tools as well as help design and implement individualized goals and objectives, help you sort out beliefs, thoughts, and behavior patterns that may be hindering you in your relationship(s) whether at the work place or in other areas of your life.  
 
We have the tools you need for managing pain, anxiety, disappointment, frustration, hopelessness, or anger resulting from circumstances that interfere in achieving a balanced and fulfilling lifestyle.  By working together, we will show you how to set and achieve goals and objectives therapeutically designed to meet your needs that will allow you to live the life you know that you deserve.
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Therapy for Blended Families

Blended families are very common and can produce wonderful experiences as well as unique challenges.  The step parent – step child relationship can be fragile at times.  The same can be said for adoptive siblings, step siblings, and half siblings.  You may find yourself needing a family therapist.  Family counseling can help you deal with any jealousy or resentment that may be undermining the situation, and restore peace and harmony to your home.

If any of the following, fit your situation, you can benefit from family counseling.

  • Is your blended family just not blending?
  • Are you a stepmom struggling with his kids?
  • Are you a Dad struggling with parenting in a stepfamily?
  • Is your relationship not what you expected?
  • Is discipline a problem?
  • Are your step kids disrespectful?
  • Who comes first partner or the child?
  • ​​Do you sometimes feel like an outsider?

At Affordable Counseling Center, we take the time to focus on the partnership of the family and use actionable processes to address the issues of: partnership, couple strength, discipline, roles, organization, conflict of loyalties, and the ex spouse, if applicable.

Call Affordable Counseling Center today. We have offices in Brandon and Tampa and will work around your schedule. Call or text us at; (813) 244-1251. We are also online at:

http://www.affordablecounseningbrandon.com

http://www.starpointcounselingbrandon.com

http://www.starpointcounselingtampa.com

Standing your ground

Everyday, from the moment we wake up, we live our lives caring what other people think of us. We tip toe our way through life by doing things in order to please others, not because it’s what we believe in. Eventually our actions, appearances, and lives become molded by how we think other people perceive us.

Living a life that follows what other people think is a terrible way to live. We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us. But the truth is —  everyone is thinking the exact same thing, and everyone is too busy thinking about ourselves and our own shortcomings to worry about others.

It’s impossible to live up to everyone’s expectations. There will always be people ,  no matter what we say or how we treat them , that will judge us. You will never be able to stop people from judging you, but you can stop it from affecting you! Do not let other people’s perception of you effect your perception of yourself.

 

Living life according to “the plan”

“Life is what happens while you are making other plans.” ~John Lennon
       Getting fixated on plans will often times lead to disappointment. We tend to plan out our lives rigorously and not know what to do when things do not go as we anticipated. Sometimes you might need to make minor adjustments to your life plans in order to enjoy the journey of life. Other times, major changes might be necessary, either way, that’s your opportunity to experience all that this world has to offer.
     Learning to find joy and happiness with life’s surprises takes time, but you will no longer find yourself being constantly disappointed or stressed or looking around wondering what happened to the life you thought you’d have.
      You can develop the habit of seeing the good in everything, even when life doesn’t go according to “the plan.”
      If you are having a hard time coping with the changes in your life, at Star Point Counseling Center, we can help you. If you have any questions or wish to speak to a counselor please give us a call at (813)-244-1251

Family Stress

Family dynamics significantly impact one’s health in both positive and negative ways. Having a close-knit and supportive family provides emotional support, economic well-being, and increases overall health. Although, the opposite is also true. One’s health tends to be negatively affected by family stress and conflict. Families characterized by conflict, anger, and aggression have a particularly negative effect on the children in the home.

At Start Point Counseling Center, we can help you identify specific family dynamics that compromise the quality of home life for you and your children. We encourage strong, loving, high functioning, and spiritually grounded family lifestyles.

Without pointing the finger of blame, shame or chastisement, we work to identify the factors that may contribute to a breakdown in communication in the home. So, if you are experiencing tension and stress from your family dynamic please visit our website starpointcounselingtampa.com or give us a call at (813)-244-1251.

Summer Parenting

Summer is well underway for school kids, but summer also has a long way until it is time to start thinking about going back to school. With the excitement of the ending of another school year waning down, it is … Continue reading

Metacommunication

Recently I conducted a poll with friends and acquaintances about communication with their significant others. I asked, “What is the number one communication deficit that you have with your partner?” I was pleasantly surprised to see the array of answers I received in response. One person explained, “Politely asking to have something done multiple times until I have to get a little snappy to get it done…then the response is, ” you don’t have to nag me”…OR I just end up doing it myself and he jumps up & says, “I was gonna do that.” Resolved myself to just rolling my eyes. Arguing goes nowhere.” Another replied, “When my wife is mad about something I did or said and tries to act as if all is well. It creates awkward communication that usually drags until we just stop talking for a short period of time.” There were also a few other responses that ranged anywhere from not being a good listener to not talking at all. While there are many failures to communication, there was one answer that really struck me. She said, “We have a communication issue about communicating.”

Often times its not only what you say that has an impact on your message. Many components influence the way a message is delivered. Your body language, facial expression, and even lack of vocal expression can be interpreted by the receiver. Even lies and deception can be detected through different body movements.
Metacommunication can be a good thing to discect and explore when you are having issues with communication. You may already be noticing and reading the non-verbal cues of your partner. They may actually be driving you crazy because you know that when your girlfriend says, “I’m fine” really means, “I’m so mad I could spit.” Communicating about communication is important for many couples to find out how to better deliver and receive messages.
Does your physical communication match your verbal communication? Are you sending the wrong message through your non-verbals? Star Point wants to hear from you. Comment below!
Stayed tuned for part two of our blog on metacommunication where we will give you some great tips on how to be aware of your messages.

For more information on mental health counseling and related topics, check out our website at http://www.starpointcounselingbrandon.com or http://www.starpointcounselingtampa.com

New Beginnings

Here at Star Point Counseling we eagerly embrace new beginnings. Many people take the New Year as an opportunity for growth, awareness, and positive behavior changes. We can help you re-evaluate your aspects of your life you are not satisfied with.

We also embrace new beginnings for families with children of all ages. We will help you adjust to having an addition to your family. We know it can turn your entire world around, as you navigate through all the changes that a newborn, blended families, or second marriages which stepparents or stepchildren may bring.

Newness and change are constant in life. Let us help you live the life you deserve, while being able to manage and welcome changes as learning opportunities.

For more information on mental health counseling, or to schedule a confidential appointment with a qualified mental health counselor visit our websites at http://www.starpointcounselingtampa.com, or http://www.starpointcounselingbrandon.com. Or you can call us at 813-244-1251.

The New Year is Here

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Many of us become a little excited when the new year comes around. It is a time to start fresh, to live healthier, and to make better decisions about life as a whole. But how long do these “resolutions” last most people? A recent study by the University of Scranton showed data on what type of resolutions are typically made, what ages follow through, and how long the resolution lasts. Suprisingly , almost 50% of the study sample reported that after 6 months they are still staying true to their New Year’s resolutions. However, by the full year, less than 9% of study participants kept true to their personal promises.

These were the top 10 resolutions made by the people in the sample:
1 Lose Weight
2 Getting Organized
3 Spend Less, Save More
4 Enjoy Life to the Fullest
5 Staying Fit and Healthy
6 Learn Something Exciting
7 Quit Smoking
8 Help Others in Their Dreams
9 Fall in Love
10 Spend More Time with Family

Any of them sound familiar to you? Have you ever attempted to keep one of these changes in your life and failed? Sometimes trying to do it on your own can be daunting and difficult. Trying to find a friend, coworker, or family member to make some of these changes with you can be a good way to hold yourself accountable, and may motivate some to stay on track. Also, remember that in order to make these changes life long, there will definately be some “slip ups” along the way. You may say, “I had a peice of cake, my diet is ruined so I might as well eat bad for the rest of the day.” However, this catastrophic thinking will get you no where with your goals. The next meal is your next opportunity to make a good choice. Throwing in the towel is sure to land you in the 50% that does not succeed with their resolutions.

Counseling is a great way to help you achieve success. Counseling is not only applicable in situations where your life seems overwhelming or grief stricken. It is a great way to set your mind up for success in all parts of your life.

For more information on mental health counseling, visit our website at http://www.starpointcounselingbrandon.com, or http://www.starpointcounselingtampa.com

Have a Happy New Year!!!

Happy Veteran’s Day!

To all of those who serve and have served and their families, we wish you a Happy Veteran’s Day! We are grateful to you for our freedom!!

Star Point Counseling center offers therapy services to veteran’s of war and their families. Often times soldiers have a difficult experience adjusting back to family life after being in a war situation for an extended period of time. Here is a little information from our Clinical Director on how we may be able to help you!

We work to make our veterans’ homecoming as rewarding as possible. We will help you identify and find relief from signs and symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Major Depression (MDD), Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAS), etc., and provide the services necessary to assure the adjustment to civilian life.

We work to reverse the dissociation and desensitization that was, in war, a source of strength, which otherwise at home may contribute to a sense of detachment, estrangement, and/or an inability to give, express, or receive love.

Star Point Counseling has offices in both Brandon and Tampa Fl to better serve you! Visit our website for more information http://www.starpointcounselingtampa.com