Are Your Being Emotionally Abused?

Emotional abuse can be just as psychologically damaging as physical abuse, but it is also in some ways easier to explain and justify. People who are emotionally abused tend to downplay their victimization by comparing themselves to people who are physically abused. But abuse is detrimental, whether it is emotional, physical, or mental.

Are you accepting treatment that you shouldn’t?  Are you being emotionally abused?  Here are some indicators:

  • Lack of reciprocity. You feel as if you are always giving and they are always taking. You don’t give just because you want to make them feel good, you give to avoid having them make you feel bad.
  • Everything is made to be your fault. He or she is always looking for a way to put the blame on you.
  • Your self-esteem is being ripped to pieces. A way of maintaining the power dynamic is to make you second guess yourself and put all your faith and trust into the abuser.
  • Your abuser has isolated you. Again, that maintains the power dynamic in their favor.  This might also increase your financial dependence, another way of controlling you. Or maybe you don’t want to approach others because you are ashamed to say what is going on in your relationship.
  • You’re minimizing the occurrences, and the ways they make you feel. You make excuses, and you make it your fault when your partner says something demeaning or does something controlling. You say that the abuser is right, you do need to correct those things. Because if you did, then he/she wouldn’t have anything to complain about.

Emotional abuse breaks you down, shames, isolates, and confuses you.  It’s time to call it what it is and let other people know what’s happening. Then you can start to figure out what the right next step is for you–if it’s seeing a therapist, confronting your partner, or making plans to leave the relationship.

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What does Star Point Counseling offer?

At Star Point Counseling Center we provide counseling services to individuals, couples, families, children, teens, and adults with any type of crises. Our Mental Health Professionals will help you build tools as well as designing and implementing goals and objectives. We can help you sort out beliefs, thoughts, and behavior patterns that may be hindering you in your relationship(s) whether at the work place or in other areas of your life. By working together, we will show you how to set and achieve goals and objectives, therapeutically designed to meet your needs that will allow you to live the life that you deserve. Our counseling services include, but are not limited to, marriage/relationship counseling, troubled teens, parenting skills, anxiety, stress, depression, divorce/separation, grief/loss, negative behaviors, domestic violence, and more. We accept major insurances such as, Blue Cross Blue Shield, Cigna, and United Behavioral Health. If you do not have insurance we have affordable prices based on household income that range from $40-$100.  We have two convenient locations, Tampa and Brandon. The hours at the Tampa office are Monday-Friday 12pm-8pm, and Brandon office Monday-Thursday 12pm-8pm and Saturdays 10am-5pm by appointment only.

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Getting Over A Verbally Abusive Relationship.


It is normal to have a a mix of emotions after ending a verbally abusive relationship. Moving on takes time, support, love and patience, but once you get through it you will be stronger and happier. There are some things to can do to help get over this abusive relationship:

Cut all ties. After a relationship ends many people feel the need to either show their ex that they are better off without them or apologize to them. It is vital to cut off all contact, you cannot fully have closure until you do. Delete their number, and block them from social media so you aren’t tempted to contact them.

Process your emotions. When you first leave a verbally abusive relationship, you might feel alone, you may feel a decreased sense of self-esteem and self-worth, depression, anger, frustration or isolation, and you might even miss your ex. Don’t bottle up your emotions, let them out. Scream, cry, write in a journal, join a boxing class, or even punching your pillow are all great ways to let your emotions out. 

Get social support. Verbally abusive spouses and partners often socially isolate their significant others. You might have been cut off from your family and friends. Reconnect with them, it is much easier to move on when you surround yourself with a loving support network. 

If you have tried these already and you find yourself still struggling with moving on then try seeking counseling. Trained counselors can lay out a plan of recovery and help you identify the skills and strengths you already have to begin moving forward in your new life

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Signs of Verbal Abuse


How do you know if you are in a verbally abusive relationship?

Another name for verbal abuse is emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is defined as a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder. Imagine a situation where a person yells at you, calls you names, and embarrasses you in front of others. That is emotional abuse. It depletes your self-esteem, and can often make you feel like you are crazy.

In the beginning stages of a relationship, the “courting stage,” it is really hard to identify signs of emotional abuse. Things are really good at that period. However, experts say one red flag is a person’s desire to get serious too soon. This is known as an attempt at control masked as romantic love.

Telltale signs of emotional abuse you can look for in your relationship:

  1. You feel worse after disagreements
  2. He calls his ex “crazy” for her allegations
  3. You don’t feel free to spend time with the people and pursuits you love
  4. You feel like you’re dating Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde
  5. He threatens to kill himself, you, your child, or the pet if you leave

Emotional abuse is common (1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence). It happens to males too. If you have experienced emotional abuse, it is important to realize it was not your fault. You can get out, and you can get help.

What are some signs of emotional abuse that you can think of?


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