Having a child brings incredible change to a marriage or partnership — and it’s not always good. The shift might happen suddenly or over a long period of time, but many couples seek out couples counseling, relationship counseling, or marriage counseling at some point during their parenting journey to help them bring the play, joy and passion back to their relationship.
In the early days of parenting, babies need all our attention and resources. During this time, nurturing yourself and your partner can drop so low on the priority list you actually forget to do it, or it seems you simply don’t know how anymore.
Overtime, old hurts from moments of feeling unsupported, unheard, unappreciated, or unloved develop rifts and walls in relationships. Partners become defended rather than open, critical rather than loving and generous, and lonely rather than safe and connected.
Maintaining and creating a partnership that is strong, loving, and tough enough to withstand the rough road of parenting is hard, but it is possible – and worth the effort. The support of focused, effective couples counseling can help you find your way back to each other.
Creating a thriving relationship isn’t just good for you: How you and your partner model conflict, communication, and intimacy has profound effects on your children, whatever their ages. Staying engaged and working on your marriage or partnership will alter their own attitudes about relationships, their feelings of emotional safety, and their innate ability to “do” relationships. Prioritizing your relationship with your partner and healing your marriage or relationshop is one of the most powerful ways that you can impact your children. Relationship counseling, couples counseling, and marriage counseling can help.