We all get angry every once in a while, it is unavoidable. For for some people this inevitable emotion is difficult to manage, express, and sometimes even recognize when it is getting out of control. This can lead to violent and destructive behaviors, and even affect some relationships with loved ones.
There are many ways to deal with anger in a constructive and healthy way.
- Try not to avoid confrontation. Many people, particularly women are not comforable feeling anger or experiencing anger in others. But it’s a real emotion that can highlight important issues. Shoving your feelings of anger under the rug, or shying away from it in others, will either cause bigger explosions of built up anger in the future, or can lead to depression.
- Avoid pointing the finger. No one likes to be the one who is in the wrong, but attacking the other person will just put them on the defensive. If they have upset you, for example, focus on how it made you feel rather than resorting to name-calling. Try to remain on the same topic and not bring up past mistakes that they have made.
- Stay cool. Although going on a huge angry rant is tempting, there are better ways for you to get your point across. Let your tone express the fact that you care about the other person, and in return the other person will express their feelings the same way. This helps both parties stay calm and level-headed, and in the long run you have more of a chance to be listened to and understood.
- Be professional. If it is a work colleague that you are confronting, take some deep breaths and step back for a moment. End the confrontation as soon as possible and set a meeting so you can sit down and discuss how things can be done differently in the future.
- Be ready to make a compromise. Try to be open minded and think flexibly during your confrontation. Have a resolution in mind, but also be prepared to make a compromise based on the other person’s opinions.
We are all human and sometimes we let our anger get the best of us. But just because you allow yourself to express anger it doesn’t mean you have to let it control you and destroy relationships. If you can’t seem to be able to manage your anger, then let us help you. We can give you more tips and tools on how to control your anger and deal with it in a more healthy way. Check out our website for more information! starpointcounselingtampa.com