Proven And Effective Study Habits.

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With Fall right around the corner, everyone is preparing for school to start up again. Students deal with numerous things going on in their life, which makes it hard to concentrate on studying sometimes. And studying is very crucial in order to progress from year to year.

Whether you are a parent of a student, teenager, or beginning your first year of college these tips can be very helpful for you or your child. 

1. How you approach studying matters. Being in the right mindset is important in order for smarter studying. Do not force yourself to study when your not in the right mindset, come back to it when other things are not occupying your mind.

2. Where you study is important. A place that has a lot of distractions is a poor choice of a study area. Try to find a quiet nook in the library or study hall where there are no TVs or computers to distract you.

3. Bring everything you need, nothing you don’t. Many people use computers to take notes on, but this serves a huge distraction because there are many other things you could do on the computer other than studying. Try using just a pen and paper for note taking.

4. Outline and rewrite your notes. Make sure you translate notes and outlines into your owns words and concepts. 

5. Use memory games. Mnemonic devices are helpful because you use more of your brain to remember visual and active images than you do to remember just a list of items.

6. Practice by yourself or with friends. Practice by yourself or with friends by testing yourself with either practice exams, past quizzes, or flash cards. 

7. Make a schedule you can stick to. Schedule study time just as your class time is scheduled, you’ll find it becomes much less of a hassle in the long run. Spend 30-60 minutes before or after that class studying, it will allow you to learn more of the material.

8. Take breaks and reward yourself. Try studying for 1 hour and then give yourself a 5 minute break to grab your favorite snack.

If you find yourself struggling with concentrating during your study time or would like some more tips and pointers for effective study habits, let us know. We can help you get back on track! (813)244-1251

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What Is A Codependent?

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A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior. The heart of the definition and recovery does not lie in the other person, it lies in the codependent and the way they have let other people’s behavior affect them and in the ways they try to affect the other person. Below is a short list of some characteristics of a codependent.

  • Think and feel responsible for other people’s feelings, thoughts, actions, choices, wants, needs, and well-being.
  • have anxiety, pity and guilt when other people have a problem.
  • feel angry when their help isn’t effective
  • wonder why others don’t do the same for them.
  • find themselves attracted to needy people, and vice-versa
  • over-commit themselves
  • come from troubled, repressed, or dysfunctional families and deny it.
  • fear rejection
  • feel as if they aren’t good enough, and are different from other people
  • worry about the silliest things
  • lose sleep over problems or other people’s behaviors
  • lie to protect or cover for people they love
  • lack of trust of themselves and others, their feelings and decisions

It is estimated that 80 million people are chemically dependent or in a relationship with someone who is. If concern has turned into obsession; if compassion has turned into care taking;  if you are taking care of other people and not yourself, you may be in trouble with codependency.The first step toward change is awareness, and the second is acceptance.

Call us today for information on how we can help you understand what codependency is all about! (813)244-1251

 

Don’t Let Stress Control You!

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We are bound to feel stressed every once in a while, we can’t avoid it. But we do have a choice in how to handle it when it comes our way. Everyone deals with stress differently, you may have to experiment with many coping methods in order to find what works best for you.

Consider these four points below, they might help decrease the amount of stress and change the way you perceive it:

1. Nothing and no one can MAKE you feel anything. How you feel and deal with a situation is 100% your choice. We can’t control the actions of others but we can control our own reactions. If the situation is something that you can change then begin thinking about positive ways you can handle it, if it is not something you can change then you must accept it for what it is and find ways to cope.

2. Exchange attitude for gratitude. Negative attitudes affect our physical, spiritual, and mental well-being. When in a stressful situation try thinking about things you are grateful for, such as your health, friends, and family. Focusing on these things will change your attitude.

3. Relax! With our very hectic and busy lives, we often forget to take care of ourselves. Relaxing helps rejuvenate the body, mind, and spirit. Try finding something quiet that you enjoy doing, and set aside time every day to do it.

4. Look at the big picture. Take a step back and look at the big picture in the situation. Ask yourself “will this matter in the long run?” and “how important is this?” Don’t waste your time on things that don’t really matter.

Stress may be apart of our every day lives but we can control how much it affects us. Will you control the stress or will the stress control you?

If you are struggling with finding the right techniques for dealing with your stress, we can help you! Call us today to set an appointment with a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and learn how to control your stress. (813)244-1251

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Healthy Vs. Unhealthy Relationships.

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Sometimes a relationship may not be abusive, but there may be many other serious problems that make it an unhealthy relationship. If you feel that your relationship is unhealthy, you should try talking to your partner about your concerns. If you feel that  you are hitting a brick wall when talking to your partner about your concerns then try talking to a friend, family member, or even consulting with a counselor. Get the support and help you need to figure out what the next step is.

Signs of an unhealthy relationship include:

  • Focusing all your energy on your partner
  • Feeling pressured or controlled a lot
  • Dropping family, friends, and/or activities you enjoy
  • Not being able to be comfortable and yourself
  • Having more bad times then good in the relationship
  • Feeling sad or scared when with your partner

Signs of a healthy relationship include:

  • Having a life outside of the relationship, with your own friends and activities
  • Having more good times then bad in the relationship
  • Being able to be comfortable and act like yourself
  • Making decisions together, and with both partners compromising
  • Feeling like your partner supports you
  • Dealing with conflicts by talking calmly and honestly

While we do everything we can to help you fix and save your relationship, we are also prepared to help you and your partner make the smooth transition through the process of separation,if that is the decision you feel is right for you.

Call us today for information on how we can help you and your partner rebuild your relationship into a more stable and healthy one (813)244-1251

 

Tell-Tale Signs Of A Narcissist.

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In actuality narcissists are not easy to spot. If they came off as jerks, bragging and boasting then it would be easy. But narcissists usually portray themselves as charming and charismatic, reeling you in like a fish on a hook. They can be exciting, entertaining, attractive, sexy, and come off as the life of the party, unless you know these tell-tale signs for identifying them.

  • Marked need for attention. Narcissists need to be the center of attention, seeking admiration is like an addiction for them. Watch to see if they are constantly seeking compliments.
  • Extremely selfish. They are self-centered people who regard others as having no value at all to them if they are not doing something for themselves.They constantly put others down in order to make themselves appear superior.
  • Unpleasant verbal behavior. While narcissists love to talk about themselves and love the sound of their own voice, they don’t always sound pleasant to others. They engage in more unpleasant behaviors such as arguing, cussing, and using sexual language. Their rage is the expression and confirmation of their power over people.
  • Never apologize. No matter how much they have misbehaved, caused a problem, or hurt someone else in the process they will not apologize.. ever. In fact, it is not unusual for them to turn things around and put the blame on you.
  • Tear people down. Narcissists are known for building you up when that is what you need. And when your skies are clear and sunny, they will start tearing you down out of the blue.
  • Poor listener. If others are speaking, they will try to bring the conversation back to themselves or their topic of choice. They will not remember your likes and dislikes because they simply does not care.

If this describes someone you are in a relationship with, and you would like to learn more information on how to deal these narcissistic qualities or get out of the relationship. call us today so we can help! (813)244-1251

 

Myths About Therapy.

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Unfortunately, therapy still remains a shrouded subject, and many myths persist.These misunderstandings can prevent people from seeking help and getting better, and gives something valuable a bad name.

These are 7 myths that just won’t go away.

Myth #1: Everyone can benefit from therapy: This is false, only those who are motivated to change will truly benefit from therapy. It is important to be ready, willing, and open to therapy.

Myth #2: Therapy is like talking to a friend: Although it is important to have friends as support, therapists are trained to understand these matters and are able to offer more than just good advise.

Myth #3: Therapy isn’t working unless your in pain: This is not entirely true. Therapists may address painful subjects, but therapy is more about understanding yourself and others, and learning how to cope with different situations.

Myth #4: Therapy entails brainwashing: Some people believe that therapists push their ideas and agendas on their clients. However, a good clinician helps you re-discover or regain your voice, not lose it.

Myth #5 Therapists never take sides: At times, a therapist might have to take a side, either to keep a couple moving along, to challenge a client, or because of a particular issue at hand. Sometimes taking sides leads to more progress.

Myth #6 Change takes place during therapy: False, change actually takes place before and after your sessions. The goal of therapy is to apply the changes to your life, which is the hardest part.

Myth #7 Seeing a therapist means your damaged, weak, or crazy: There is nothing crazy about working on specific problems or trying to overcome intrusive symptoms. Therapy gives you the opportunity to utilize all the tools at your disposal to maximize your satisfaction and effectiveness in life.

Call us to find out how we can help you with any difficult situation you may be dealing with (813)244-1251 

Dealing with Troubled Teens.

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It is completely normal for your teenager to want to be independent, but not to act out in dangerous extremes. If they are creating self-destructive behavior DO NOT wait to intervene. The longer you let it go, the more perilous the situation becomes.

Here is some advice for parents with troubled teens:
-Identify the cause: If your teen is making drastic behavioral changes, there’s a reason. It’s a cause-and-effect situation. As a parent, it’s your responsibility to identify what’s behind the change. It may be a recent event, or it may be something deep-rooted.
-Look back: Negative events that happened at ages 2, 3 or 4 help to shape children’s personalities. By the time these toddlers become teenagers, they’ve been living with the resulting pain for most of their lives. As teenagers, they are able to act on these feelings with more lasting — and harmful — consequences.
-Listen and talk: Teenagers today have more opportunities to make bad decisions than they did in years past. This is all the more reason that you must be a positive, reliable person in your child’s life. Listen to him or her and resist the urge to judge or advise; sometimes just being heard helps. Even though they’re often reluctant to admit it, they seek approval, love, and a “soft place to fall” in their parents. If they don’t feel valued, loved and understood at home, they’ll turn elsewhere to get the acceptance they so deeply need.
-Act like a parent: …especially if your teenager is already going down the wrong path. A warm relationship is ideal, but sometimes you must do things your child won’t understand. Remember: you’re a parent, not a pal. Your responsibility is to ensure the well-being and safety of your child. Intervening in a dangerous situation (like ones involving drugs, abuse or truancy) might make your child dislike you, but it will also save his or her life.

If you are having a hard time dealing with your troubled teen, seek help from a Licensed Mental Heath Counselor.
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Laughter is the Best Medicine for Mind and Body!

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Humor is infectious. The sound of roaring laughter is far more contagious than any cough, sniffle, or sneeze. When laughter is shared, it binds people together and increases happiness and intimacy. Laughter also triggers healthy physical changes in the body. Humor and laughter strengthen your immune system, boost your energy, diminish pain, and protect you from the damaging effects of stress. Nothing works faster or more dependably to bring your mind and body back into balance than a good laugh. Best of all, this priceless medicine is fun, free, and easy to use.

 

Physical Health Benefits:

  • Boosts immunity
  • Lowers stress hormones
  • Decreases pain
  • Relaxes your muscles
  • Prevents heart disease

Mental Health Benefits:

  • Adds joy and zest to life
  • Eases anxiety and fear
  • Relieves stress
  • Improves mood
  • Enhances resilience

Social Benefits:

  • Strengthens relationships
  • Attracts others to us
  • Enhances teamwork
  • Helps defuse conflict
  • Promotes group bonding

“Your sense of humor is one of the most powerful tools you have to make certain that your daily mood and emotional state support good health.” -Paul E. McGhee, Ph.D.

 

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