Change Your Monday Morning Mood!

Even when you love your job, and especially if you don’t love your job, it can be hard to go back to work on Monday morning. After the weekend and having time out of the routine, it can feel overwhelming to jump back into work on Mondays. If you are aware that certain times of the day or days of the weak present a happiness challenge for you, you can take steps to improve them.

Here are some tips for improving your Monday mornings:

  • Look forward to something. Many people suffer from the Sunday blues knowing they have to go back to work on Mondays, but having something you can look forward to can make it less dreadful. Try scheduling lunch with a friend, or plan to take a quick break and go for a walk with a co-worker.
  • Set your own priorities. Get your own priorities done first and then worry about everything else.
  • Make the most of the morning. Studies show that the brain is often better able to tackle cognitive tasks before noon, so Monday morning is a great time to tackle a challenging task.
  • Shuffle the schedule. Maybe you have meetings or projects usually due on Mondays. Is it possible to move those things to another day of the week to give you a little cushion?
  • Roll with it. Try to embrace and enjoy your Mondays even though you may hate them.

How you face the morning influences your mood, your health, and your life. Try making the best out of your Mondays and you will find that the rest of the week just flies by.

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Are Your Being Emotionally Abused?

Emotional abuse can be just as psychologically damaging as physical abuse, but it is also in some ways easier to explain and justify. People who are emotionally abused tend to downplay their victimization by comparing themselves to people who are physically abused. But abuse is detrimental, whether it is emotional, physical, or mental.

Are you accepting treatment that you shouldn’t?  Are you being emotionally abused?  Here are some indicators:

  • Lack of reciprocity. You feel as if you are always giving and they are always taking. You don’t give just because you want to make them feel good, you give to avoid having them make you feel bad.
  • Everything is made to be your fault. He or she is always looking for a way to put the blame on you.
  • Your self-esteem is being ripped to pieces. A way of maintaining the power dynamic is to make you second guess yourself and put all your faith and trust into the abuser.
  • Your abuser has isolated you. Again, that maintains the power dynamic in their favor.  This might also increase your financial dependence, another way of controlling you. Or maybe you don’t want to approach others because you are ashamed to say what is going on in your relationship.
  • You’re minimizing the occurrences, and the ways they make you feel. You make excuses, and you make it your fault when your partner says something demeaning or does something controlling. You say that the abuser is right, you do need to correct those things. Because if you did, then he/she wouldn’t have anything to complain about.

Emotional abuse breaks you down, shames, isolates, and confuses you.  It’s time to call it what it is and let other people know what’s happening. Then you can start to figure out what the right next step is for you–if it’s seeing a therapist, confronting your partner, or making plans to leave the relationship.

Call to schedule an appointment with a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and begin living the life that you deserve! (813)244-1251 www.starpointcounselingtampa.com

The Holidays Are Quickly Approaching!

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Although the holiday season is supposed to make you feel merry and generous, for many people the stress that goes along with the holidays can trigger sadness and depression. This time of year is especially difficult for those people because there is an expectation of being merry and happy, so people compare their own emotions to what they assume others are experiencing and what they should be experiencing.

There are many things that can add to the stress and tough emotions during the holiday season:

  • Finances. Not having enough or the fear of not having enough money to be able to buy gifts for family and friends. When you can’t afford to celebrate it can feel devastating.
  • Stress. The stress comes from finding time to go shopping or planning family dinners, when you are already overwhelmed with work and the kids.
  • Loneliness. Even though the holidays brings families and friends together, there are those who may not have anyone to spend the holidays with.
  • Grief. For those who have lost a loved one, this may be the first holiday they are spending without that person.
  • Divorce. If you are recently divorced, the holidays may remind you of the good times you spent together. It can also be stressful for adult children who may have to balance seeing both parents.
  • Pleasing. Deciding what to get who and how much to spend on everyone can make you feel guilty, like you aren’t doing enough for everyone.
  • Seasonal Affective Disorder. Many people experience the blues during gloomy weather due to decreased sunlight, called Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).

There are many measures you can take to cope with the holiday blues, for example:

  • Make plans in advance
  • Get shopping done early
  • Make time to rest and rejuvenate
  • Spend time alone to reflect and grieve
  • Reach out to others who may be experiencing the same emotions

If you feel the stress and depression creeping up along with the holidays, call us for help before you get too entangled in stress and difficult emotions that comes with the holiday season! (813)244-1251

Getting The Most Out Of Sharing Your Feelings.

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Lets face it, when we are angry or upset venting seems like the best thing to do. We just want to let it out and tell someone and usually it makes us feel so much better just to get it off our chest and to receive some advice. But we have all had at least one experience where we spilled our feelings just to have our listener sit there and mumble “bummer.” Sharing our feelings with someone who listens well, shows empathy, and validates our feelings, makes us feel much better afterwards.

When considering whether to share your feelings with a specific person consider the following:

  • Is the person a good listener? Think about whether the person has been a good listener in the past. Did they make eye contact with you, seem engaged in the conversation, make supportive comments, and avoid getting distracted or checking their phone mid-conversation?
  • Is the person supportive?  Do they usually agree with you or take the other side? Ideally you should choose someone who will see things from your point of view, at least when you’re sad and looking for empathy.
  • Do they offer empathy and emotional validation? Does this person usually understand how you feel? Not only is it important for them to see your view point but also expressing it as well. When someone can validate how and why we are feeling upset or angry it has a positive impact on our state of mind.
  • Is the person likely to make the talk about them? Some people are quick to offer support, but also quicker to make it about them and say things like “I totally get how you feel, the same thing happened to me!” and then continue talking about their own experience. It is important to choose someone who is willing to focus on your experience and emotions.
  • Is the person loyal? When we are hurting we want to choose someone who will keep our trust and respect our privacy, not someone who will go tell everyone about your issues.

Sharing your feelings with others will be much more helpful if you follow these guidelines and choose the right person when you’re trying to recover from emotionally upsetting incidents. Mental Health Counselors are great individuals to confide in and receive the best advice from. They are trained and educated on how to be good listeners, supportive, and loyal.

Do you need someone to vent to and get things off your chest? Do you want someone to be there for you while you are healing from emotional upsets? Call us today! (813)244-1251

Bad Habits That Drain You Of Your Energy.

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It’s hard to be our best when we feel drained of energy. Here are 6 habits that you may have that drains you of your energy and keeps you from being your best:

You don’t drink enough water. Dehydration takes a toll on our energy levels. Instead of drinking a can of soda, replace it with a refreshing glass of water.

You have too much on your plate. How often are you tired because you have so much to do and not enough time to do it? Most people take on more than they can handle. Learn to say no and create a gap of relaxation in your day.

You’re a clutter bug. It’s natural that when we get busy and tired we often become cluttered and disorganized, but this only creates more stress and exhaustion in our lives. Make the time to get rid of things you don’t need and simplify your life.

You never take a break. You might think that taking a break will cause you to get behind or miss important opportunities. But by not taking a break it actually hinders your creativity and efficiency. Make time for a few quick breaks throughout the day to unwind, or even better plan a vacation and take a big break!

You have toxic relationships. Be aware of the people you surround yourself with. There are those that help us stay upbeat and focused, and then there are those that are negative and drain us. Make it a point to keep those around who fill you up emotionally instead of drain you.

You don’t get enough sleep. Getting less sleep may mean more hours to get things done, but you won’t be very efficient when you’re sleep deprived. Focus on getting at least 8 hours of sleep every night.

Making small changes in your lifestyle will go a long way for your mental health!

“The higher your energy level, the more efficient your body. The more efficient your body, the better you feel and the more you will use your talent to produce outstanding results.” – Anthony Robbins

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What Can You Do If Your Child Has Been Bullied?

October is Bullying Prevention Month!

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When your child becomes old enough to go to school they automatically become at risk for becoming prey to aggressive other kids. Even the most socially successful kids can become the focus of a bully’s attention. Even just a single bullying experience can create a long-lasting depression, low self-image, emotional hypersensitivities and more. While prevention is ideal, there is much a parent can do to prevent lifelong impacts after a bullying incident or series of incidents.

If your child is verbal, the first thing to do after you suspect bullying would be to talk with your child. Sit down together, ask sensitively if someone at school has hurt their feelings, and if so encourage them to tell you about the incident. Ask what and how questions to help your child verbalize as many details as possible about what happened. Crying out the pain with a loving and comforting parent can further the process of washing it away. Warm hugs add the reassurance and emotional soothing that can enable even the most painful emotional wounds to heal. DO NOT minimize the incident by making comments like “there are always a few mean kids at every school” or “they probably didn’t mean to hurt your feelings.” Minimizing the incident can discourage them from telling more. Instead, validate your child’s feelings by telling them how much you appreciate them telling you and how what they are feeling is normal and understandable, and explain to them that what the bully did was not right.

If you are not sure how to approach or talk to your child about the incident, we can help! We can work with you and your child to understand their feelings and help them heal from their bullying experience.

Call today to schedule an appointment! (813)244-1251

Affirmations To Improve Confidence.

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Affirmations are sentences aimed to affect the subconscious mind. The words composing the affirmation, automatically and involuntarily, bring up related mental images into the mind. The repetition of an affirmation, and the mental images, affect the subconscious mind, which in turn, influences a person’s behavior, habits, actions and reactions. Have you ever stood in front of the mirror and said to yourself “wow, I look so fat!” or “my hair looks so dull and terrible today!”  Well now I encourage you to stand in front of a mirror and say some positive affirmations. The new messages that you will say to yourself are designed to penetrate past the reinforced wall of negativity that has been cutting you off from self-love for so many years. Once you believe that you are truly worthy of happiness, you begin the mindful process of attracting positivity into your life!

Try these affirmations:

  1. I am worthy of happiness
  2. I am worthy of love
  3. I believe in my skills and abilities
  4. I have the knowledge to succeed
  5. I do not need someone to feel complete
  6. I am grateful to not be perfect
  7. I have the ability to grow and change
  8. Every moment I am here is a gift
  9. Because I believe in myself, so will others
  10. I am releasing negative thoughts
  11. I am not damaged goods
  12. I love that I am unique
  13. I attract harmony and peace
  14. I can do healthy things for myself
  15. I love that I have imperfections and flaws 

Try saying these 15 affirmations in the mirror every day, and add to the list! Use these affirmations to bring positive and permanent change to your life.

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What does Star Point Counseling offer?

At Star Point Counseling Center we provide counseling services to individuals, couples, families, children, teens, and adults with any type of crises. Our Mental Health Professionals will help you build tools as well as designing and implementing goals and objectives. We can help you sort out beliefs, thoughts, and behavior patterns that may be hindering you in your relationship(s) whether at the work place or in other areas of your life. By working together, we will show you how to set and achieve goals and objectives, therapeutically designed to meet your needs that will allow you to live the life that you deserve. Our counseling services include, but are not limited to, marriage/relationship counseling, troubled teens, parenting skills, anxiety, stress, depression, divorce/separation, grief/loss, negative behaviors, domestic violence, and more. We accept major insurances such as, Blue Cross Blue Shield, Cigna, and United Behavioral Health. If you do not have insurance we have affordable prices based on household income that range from $40-$100.  We have two convenient locations, Tampa and Brandon. The hours at the Tampa office are Monday-Friday 12pm-8pm, and Brandon office Monday-Thursday 12pm-8pm and Saturdays 10am-5pm by appointment only.

Call us today for more information about our services or to make an appointment! (813)244-1251

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Can A Smartphone Ruin A Relationship?

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The answer is YES! Smart phones are becoming a growing problem in relationships, because they worsen emotional infidelity. You might be texting a co-worker about an upcoming project, and before you know it you’re sharing more and more with each other, eventually you find yourself in an emotional affair. This situation is beginning to occur a lot more frequently in today’s technologically advanced world.

Here are 7 reasons why smart phones worsen emotional infidelity:

  1. Real time response. You can keep your phone with you, continuously interfacing with another individual which keeps you potentially connected all the time.
  2. Relationship fragmentation. It’s easy to have a relationship when all you have to do is chat with the other person.
  3. Lack of reality testing. You can’t listen to smartphones nag or complain, you don’t have to deal with bad breath in the morning, and they don’t leave their socks all over the floor.
  4. Control of present. People in smartphone relationships can hide certain characteristics about themselves and promote desirable ones.
  5. Ability to hide. It’s easy to hide a relationship on your phone, and when it is discovered, partners just get better at hiding it.
  6. Faster emotional disclosure. People disclose emotional vulnerability faster over the phone than in face-to-face interactions, making for a deeper connection.
  7. Multitude of ways to connect. People start affairs with various apps on smartphones, including Facebook, dating apps, email, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. All of these apps are potentially dangerous to your relationship.

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Lifestyle Factors That Improve Your Mental Health.

Mental Health illnesses are serious and real health issues that cannot be treated with lifestyle changes alone. Combining lifestyle changes and therapy can be more effective and help you see a more rapid change.

Check out some of these lifestyle changes that can affect your mental health!

Exercise/activity level: Exercise doesn’t just control your weight and improve your physical health, it can also give you protective benefits for your mental health. Some studies show that exercise can be just as beneficial as antidepressants. When you get the chance, take the stairs, go for a bike ride, or take the dog out for a walk around the neighborhood.

Smoking: Almost half of people with mental illness are smokers, and obviously we know that it’s bad for you. Even though quitting can be a challenge and may even yield a temporary downturn in your mental health, research shows that in just a few weeks after quitting it increases mental health. Smoking contributes to mood problems and physical problems such as heart disease, coughing, and difficulty exercising.

Diet: Unhealthy food choices such as excess processed foods, sweets, and foods with a low nutrient value can all undermine mental health. Research shows that healthy fats such as Omega-3 and Omega-6 fatty acids, as well as the fat found in fruits such as avocados, can boost brain power and improve your mood.

Social and community activities: Isolated people are more likely to struggle with mental health issues, and even a single outing a week with a friend can improve your mood for days. Getting involved in volunteer work can also help you feel more connected. The key is finding people you enjoy being around and who make you feel good about yourself.

Healthy romantic relationships: Research shows that a healthy romantic relationship can make a big difference on your mental health. Healthy romantic relationships have been shown to help people avoid anxiety and unstable personality traits.

Your lifestyle really does affect how you feel, you can become your own best mental health aide by taking the first step toward a healthy lifestyle. Not sure where to begin? Seek advice from a Mental Health Professional, they can give you additional suggestions based on your condition, lifestyle, and specific needs.

Call Star Point today to get started! (813)244-1251